Ugh last night was traumatizing

lacqueredlover

So last night, I was stuck underground on the subway for 2 hours.  Yes, TWO HOURS.  With no power.  And no seat.  About 5 blocks away from my stop.  It took all of my will power not to have a panic attack.  Thankfully I had cell phone service so both my FI and my Mom were trying to keep me calm.  I just wanted to go home to change my clothes before my friends book release party and instead I showed up an hour late, drenched in sweat, looking like a hot mess and literally burst into tears when I saw my friends from being so stressed out.  Needless to say, I'm going to get very drunk tonight to make up for it.  Had to force myself to get on the subway again this morning.

What shitty thing do you want to vent about today?

emmaaa

That's awful! I would be in a panic as well. I'm glad you were okay though!

I don't have anything too shitty yet. 

dcbride86

OMG I'm so sorry!!!  I remember a year or two ago, some DC metro cars were stuck underground for like 6 hours and I almost had an anxiety attack just thinking about it.  I cannot imagine how anxious you must have been!!!

maeday2

Nothing as shitty as your experience, yet. I can't even deal with being stopped in traffic under an overpass, much less underground. 

Drink up!

climbingsingle

What a miserable experience! 

I went to my best friend's daughter's Xmas play last night. She and her husband are going through a divorce, and the way he treats her (along with his mother) just breaks my heart for her. I wish I could change things. Her soon to be ex has custody right now, and she's just on the outside looking in. 

pinkshorts27

Oh God! That must have been sooo awful! I can't imagine. I would have been freaking out.

stefuhknee

Oh man that's terrible, sorry to hear you got stuck. I heard about that on the news this morning, a manhole fire or something on W4 St. I really do not miss taking the subway.

Today, I would like to vent about my drivers. I am a dispatcher and I have one driver that is just late to everything. He has an excuse every single time! I am trying to be lenient but this is just getting ridiculous and of course customers are getting angry. I just called him for an ETA and his phone is going straight to vmail.

I am just dreaming about 3pm so I can get the hell out of here and forget about everything work related for 2 whole days.

southernbelle0915

That sucks! At least you had phone service... Have yourself some cocktails with friends tonight - at least you came out with a good story!

After hearing about real issues like this, I have nothing substantial to vent about. 

thisismynickname2

Ugh, how awful!! That's one of my biggest fears riding Chicago transit. I try to take the bus whenever possible. I mean, what happens if you have to go to the bathroom? I always hit the ladies' room before leaving work just in case. 

Gawd. So sorry you had to go through that. 

lacqueredlover

thisismynickname said:

Ugh, how awful!! That's one of my biggest fears riding Chicago transit. I try to take the bus whenever possible. I mean, what happens if you have to go to the bathroom? I always hit the ladies' room before leaving work just in case. 

Gawd. So sorry you had to go through that. 

Oh yeah I totally had to pee

blabla89

@lacqueredlover that sounds awful! Good for you keeping your cool...I definitely would have panicked (and possibly peed my pants)

I am at my wit’s end with FI right now. I've tried so hard to be supportive through everything with his job situation (it turns out he will probably still be employed through the spring) while not inserting myself in the middle of it or telling him what to do. But nothing I say or do is good enough. I reached out to a friend in his industry, and she connected him with a recruiter who helped her find a job. This morning FI was complaining that the recruiter wasn’t very nice and she wanted to receive his resume via email rather than from his linkedin. I think that’s pretty reasonable, but telling FI that would only make him upset with me. So I said I’m sorry sweetie, that sounds really frustrating. He sent me back this long text about how when I say that it means I don’t really care about his problem, and I was so frustrated that I cried at my desk for a minute. Thanks for letting me vent. Time to put on my big girl panties and go on with my day.

steph861

Yikes that is crappy. You held up better than I would have!

dcbride86

blabla89 said:

@lacqueredlover that sounds awful! Good for you keeping your cool...I definitely would have panicked (and possibly peed my pants)

I am at my wit’s end with FI right now. I've tried so hard to be supportive through everything with his job situation (it turns out he will probably still be employed through the spring) while not inserting myself in the middle of it or telling him what to do. But nothing I say or do is good enough. I reached out to a friend in his industry, and she connected him with a recruiter who helped her find a job. This morning FI was complaining that the recruiter wasn’t very nice and she wanted to receive his resume via email rather than from his linkedin. I think that’s pretty reasonable, but telling FI that would only make him upset with me. So I said I’m sorry sweetie, that sounds really frustrating. He sent me back this long text about how when I say that it means I don’t really care about his problem, and I was so frustrated that I cried at my desk for a minute. Thanks for letting me vent. Time to put on my big girl panties and go on with my day.

I'm sorry - that's really crappy.  Have you tried talking to him about this kind of stuff?  Maybe if you (calmly but seriously) mention that he's hurting and frustrating you, he'll actually realize it and try to stop.  He may just be caught up in his own frustrations and not realize that what he's doing to you is not okay.  Obviously I don't really know the situation, but I thought I'd try to throw that out there

Gustafson28

Yikes! Glad you made it through! I would have reacted the same way Edit: missed a word.. I'm the worst at that lately

Couggal12

UGH that sounds like a nightmare! I'm sorry you went through that!

Sad today because last night H found out from his boss they it's possible people in the department might get laid off next year sometimes. they have to reevaluate the needs after January. I hope H gets to keep his job. I know he COULD find something else if it came down to it but, the benefits are so good at his work and that's important for our decision for TTC. 

southernbelle0915

Speaking of being stuck in transit.... All you ladies from ATL, were you stuck in the epic traffic jams last winter? I never understood how people made it out of those without similar trauma and/or loss of dignity - no water, no food, no bathroom... some for like 8 hours or more.

amelisha

I just want to complain that I've barely seen FI this week mostly through my own fault. I've had stuff planned every night (I baked 30 dozen cookies with my girlfriends last night, for example) but I would really like to spend tonight on the couch and I can't because I volunteered to work for my catering-supervisor friend at her fancy hotel until ten again tonight. Boooooooooo.

blabla89

@southernbelle0915 there definitely a loss of dignity...a baby was born on 285 for crying out loud! I personally was only stuck in it for about an hour and a half before I made it to FI's place, but a lot of my coworkers were stuck all night and into the next day.

@Couggal12, I'm sorry your FI is going through that. I know it's really stressful position to be in.

Couggal12

@blabla89 it really is, especially right before Christmas. We will get through it though. 

JennyColada

Things are going pretty smoothly for me recently. I guess I'm hogging all the good!

My manager(s) are kind of useless, but my coworkers are good, so it's a fine trade off.
It's POURING here though, which totally sucks.

blabla89

Couggal12 said:

@blabla89 it really is, especially right before Christmas. We will get through it though. 

I'm right there with you. My company went through three rounds of layoffs this year, and now FI has no idea whether his work contract is going to be extended. On the bright side, it's good that your FI knows in time to prepare for the possibility. Maybe he could negotiate extended benefits as part of a severance package? Sending you lots of hugs - it will be okay, so try not to dwell on it too much over Christmas.

ShesSoCold

Oh god that sounds terrible!!! I would have had such a hard time not losing my shit. 

I'm having a mega shitty week. Monday was three months since my mom died and that hit me harder than one and two months. A quarter of a year. Feels like forever. And today is three years since my two cousins were murdered. I don't like the holidays anyway but this year is horrible.

jenna8984

You know what's kinda hilarious? Just a day or two ago I watched a Full House rerun where Jesse misses his high school graduation because they are stuck on the train. But you know, he talked a thug dropout into going back to school during the ordeal so it all turned out rainbows!

 

That sucks though. I'd freak out too. My highway I take to work has an exit, then 10 miles until the next exit which is the one I take. I'm always terrified of getting caught in a jam up in that stretch and having no way off...and having to poop. Very real concern. lol  

JennyColada

jenna8984 said:

You know what's kinda hilarious? Just a day or two ago I watched a Full House rerun where Jesse misses his high school graduation because they are stuck on the train. But you know, he talked a thug dropout into going back to school during the ordeal so it all turned out rainbows!

 

That sucks though. I'd freak out too. My highway I take to work has an exit, then 10 miles until the next exit which is the one I take. I'm always terrified of getting caught in a jam up in that stretch and having no way off...and having to poop. Very real concern. lol  

We have something similar but it's only like 4 miles.

But I'm afraid of running out of gas or having car issues.

wandajune6

thisismynickname said:

Ugh, how awful!! That's one of my biggest fears riding Chicago transit. I try to take the bus whenever possible. I mean, what happens if you have to go to the bathroom? I always hit the ladies' room before leaving work just in case. 

Gawd. So sorry you had to go through that. 

Stick to elevated lines. In case of an emergency, they're easier to evacuate than those going underground. My dad did CTA safety stuff in the 80's and told us that.

Getting trapped on a train is a nightmare of mine too. And I take the CTA daily!

Jen4948

I am so sorry you had to endure that! I moved from NYC to Houston earlier this year but I lived there for 16 years, and I was stuck on subways between stations for prolonged periods of time, although nothing like what you went through.

slothiegal

Holy fuck.  I would've gone into full panic attack mode.  I would get fidgety back in DC when the cards would stop for like, five minutes.  

lovegood90

Ugh that's awful! I would have panicked too! Glad you got out okay.

I hate how when the subways get stuck I never have reception to call someone if I'm supposed to be meeting them. One time someone was waiting for me for like, 30 mins and I had no way of telling them! Ughh.

esstee33

ShesSoCold said:

Oh god that sounds terrible!!! I would have had such a hard time not losing my shit. 

I'm having a mega shitty week. Monday was three months since my mom died and that hit me harder than one and two months. A quarter of a year. Feels like forever. And today is three years since my two cousins were murdered. I don't like the holidays anyway but this year is horrible.

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how hard it must be this time of year. (((Hugs))).  

lacqueredlover

I think I deserve a peppermint mocha coffee this afternoon due my traumatic day yesterday

Cookie Pusher

Just a general vent - I hate being the grown-up all the damn time. Like, seriously, I can guarantee that if there is a bad situation going on, someone is going to call me to fix it. Why can't folks grow the fuck up and handle their business? Why can't folks make responsible, adult decisions? I mean, it would be less irritating if they at least would consult me before deciding to do stupid shit so at least I'd have a heads up that I might be spending the next who-knows-how-long putting out other people's fires/talking people off ledges/cleaning up messes.