Wedding Tattoos

mrscomposer

The vast majority of my tattoos are heritage or permanent things (like the provincial flowers for the provinces I've lived in), or have meaning beyond face value (a flock of birds, one for every member of my family).  I also have my maiden name as an ambigram, and I'm going to be getting my married name as an ambigram - a little more artsy than just the name itself, so it'll look like just a cool design unless you know what you're looking for.

J and I are obviously planning on being together forever - but if something does happen, it will still be my last name and thus, a part of me.  I'm not getting it for him.

JennyColada

I have a tattoo of California on my foot. I have a heart on LA (born and raised!) and I'm going to get a diamond on Napa (where we got married). It's special, but still vague. I like that it's like a roadmap of my life.

sophhabobopha

I'm getting a surprise Deadpool tattoo on our anniversary this year. I'll probably get our date too.

FiancB

I wouldn't get his name. Not because I'm worried about a breakup or anything, I'd just like something more creative.

Only one tattoo so far and I haven't thought of anything to symbolize him or whatever. My tattoo is of two horses, at the time horses were my life and I've since gotten out of training and am selling my horse and I'm not sure if I'll ever have another. Whatever, it's still an awesome tattoo.

He has a music staff and he's mentioned putting our future kids' names on the lines.

ShesSoCold

H has my nickname across his left ring finger and a large penguin on his leg for me. It was something we talked about a few times. He knew he wanted a tattoo for me. He has tattoos for the other important people in his life (he's still planning on his next one being for his mother and he's not even talking to her right now). It kind of became a compromise because I didn't be want to change my last name but I knew it was important to him. He's an electrician and can't wear jewelry and the ring was important to me. Bam. I take your name, you take mine. My ex boyfriend has a tattoo for me. When I was scheduling mine, he goes, "I want one!". As a joke, I'm like "what? The same thing I'm getting?" And he says sure. So to call his bluff, I told him I'd pay for it. He got it. Even the day he got it I was thinking "you dumbass"'. I wonder if he still has it.....

JennyColada

FiancB said:

I wouldn't get his name. Not because I'm worried about a breakup or anything, I'd just like something more creative.

Only one tattoo so far and I haven't thought of anything to symbolize him or whatever. My tattoo is of two horses, at the time horses were my life and I've since gotten out of training and am selling my horse and I'm not sure if I'll ever have another. Whatever, it's still an awesome tattoo.

He has a music staff and he's mentioned putting our future kids' names on the lines.

If their names start with A-G (?) he can just put a music note on the correct line!

FiancB

JennyColada said:

FiancB said:

I wouldn't get his name. Not because I'm worried about a breakup or anything, I'd just like something more creative.

Only one tattoo so far and I haven't thought of anything to symbolize him or whatever. My tattoo is of two horses, at the time horses were my life and I've since gotten out of training and am selling my horse and I'm not sure if I'll ever have another. Whatever, it's still an awesome tattoo.

He has a music staff and he's mentioned putting our future kids' names on the lines.

If their names start with A-G (?) he can just put a music note on the correct line!

Oh that's an awesome idea! I don't think there's quite enough space to write out the names without them eventually bleeding out, so the notes is a good idea. Plus my name starts with a B so now there's room for mee.

ashley8918

I am really not into the whole idea of couples tattoos. I think that they are super cheesy. Also, hand/finger tattoos fade pretty easily.

Re: Name tattoos: NOOOOOPPPPEEEE. Even if I was 1000% sure that H and I would always be together (obviously that's the plan, but let's be honest-who the fuck really knows?) I wouldn't do it. I just don't like them, and find them tacky. I confess to judging the intelligence/decision-making skills of people with name tattoos hard, even though I know this isn't really fair.

As far as tattoos "representing your relationship" or whatever: Meh. Definitely not for me, but I don't think this is as bad as the others mentioned above.

porkchops926

tcnoble said:

Maggie0829 said:

loveislouder said:

larrygaga said:

My thought is that if you don't do it because you might break up, then maybe you shouldn't marry? I mean I thought you go into a marriage with the idea that it's just as permanent as a tattoo. I would rather have a bad tattoo than a bad husband.

I thought I wanted to tattoo under our bands, but I'm still not sure and I haven't even asked FI if he thought it was a cool idea.

This. Why plan for a break up? Live in the moment.

Then why are there prenups?  Why do people save for retirement?  Why do people go to doctors for regular check ups?  Because people plan for future things to happen (whether good or bad).  If everyone lived in the moment then there would be a lot of unprepared people in the world.

And if someone decides that getting a tattoo on their finger that represents a current marriage because that marriage may end in the future doesn't mean that they aren't ready to get married, just means that they may not want a permanent reminder if for some reason their relationship does end.  And I think wondering what you would do if your marriage does end is not a horrible thing.  It also doesn't mean that they expect their relationship to end.  It just means that they think about the future and all the possibilities (good and bad) that could come from it.

This.

When I turned 18 I got my horse's name tattooed on the inside of my right wrist. It's tiny and in a pretty script. At 18 I had no clue I would ever NOT own that horse. My parents got him for me 10 years prior. I sold him two years later. I have the tattoo, and it's not that I don't like it or it makes me sad, I just really wish I had thought about the future a little bit more before doing something so permanent. Granted I was only 18 and yay tattoos buuuut.... let's just say I'm not getting any more names tattooed on me, be it FIs or a pet.

I have three tattoos now, and the other two are things that I got just for ME... nobody else. Tattoos are totally a personal thing, and everyone gets them for different reasons. Some people might not think they'd ever regret one, some people want a million tattoos, some people don't want any. I'm not one to judge someone for their tattoo choices.

You had a HORSE?!?!?! I want to be you!!!!!

lacqueredlover

I'm all for tattoos, I have 2 of them, but I don't think I would get one to signify a relationship.  Just my personal preference (also I'm not a fan of hand tattoos in general, also just personal preference.)

And it's really easy to say that you wouldn't mind a reminder of the good times if you broke up but I think you don't really know until you experience it.  

ShesSoCold

A friend of mine has a puzzle piece tattoo on his wrist from a previous relationship. I asked him if it bothered him and he said no, that it signified a large chunk of his life. I doubt I'd feel that way. I'd want it GONE.

doeydo

lacqueredlover said:

I'm all for tattoos, I have 2 of them, but I don't think I would get one to signify a relationship.  Just my personal preference (also I'm not a fan of hand tattoos in general, also just personal preference.)

And it's really easy to say that you wouldn't mind a reminder of the good times if you broke up but I think you don't really know until you experience it.  

I agree.  You never know what the future will hold.  For instance, my mom was married to a guy who was treating her well and she thought she loved.  Then he had an affair and abused her dog and possibly murdered her bunny rabbit (he is still "missing" because that dickface wouldn't tell her where the rabbit was).  My mom despises him now and has burned all pictures of them or him.  Now, I am not saying your lovely SOs will turn out the be assholes, but shit happens.  

theartistformerlyknownas

If I were to get a wedding/relationship-related tattoo it would be an aqua lace snowflake: my dress was lace, our color was aqua, and we got engaged in a snow storm. But even if the worst happened, my favorite color will always be aqua, I'll always love the snow, and I'll always love lace. The whole thing is still pretty and meaningful to me as an individual, and isn't some super literal reference which I generally don't care for. And now this thread is making me want it even more. Anybody want to draw it for me??

ashley8918

lolo883 said:

If I were to get a wedding/relationship-related tattoo it would be an aqua lace snowflake: my dress was lace, our color was aqua, and we got engaged in a snow storm. But even if the worst happened, my favorite color will always be aqua, I'll always love the snow, and I'll always love lace. The whole thing is still pretty and meaningful to be as an individual, and isn't some super literal reference which I generally don't care for. And now this thread is making me want it even more. Anybody want to draw it for me??

Even though that has literally no significance to me, I sort of love it and might steal it.

I have drawn all my own tattoo so I will holla atcha if I decide to totally plagiarize your idea

jenna8984

FiancB said:

I wouldn't get his name. Not because I'm worried about a breakup or anything, I'd just like something more creative. Only one tattoo so far and I haven't thought of anything to symbolize him or whatever. My tattoo is of two horses, at the time horses were my life and I've since gotten out of training and am selling my horse and I'm not sure if I'll ever have another. Whatever, it's still an awesome tattoo. He has a music staff and he's mentioned putting our future kids' names on the lines.

This is how I feel. I know a lot of people who get the "let it be" or "imagine" because they are Beatles fans. I didn't want mine that obvious, so I got my half sleeve custom drawn to be my interpretation of Octopus' Garden with an octopus and flowers. Strangers and even half my friends have no idea that it has anything to do with the Beatles and I love that about it.