My mother's friend's son just got engaged, and I caught up with her over the weekend, congratulating her, asking for wedding details, etc. Her son and his fiancee are a little bit younger than me (they're in the 21-24 age range) and he's her oldest child, first to be married in the family, so she was asking me about "new and cool" wedding trends, etc. Their venue, date, and whatnot all sounded great.
Then she asked me if I or any of my friends did a wedding fundraiser. Trying (hard) not to be rude, I asked what that was -- though I was probably cringing. She said it was something that her son's fiancee's family always does and she wasn't sure if it was a "new thing" that everyone's doing. She described it to me and it basically sounds like the worst breach of etiquette I've ever heard. The bridal party has to sell tickets to wedding guests and ticket sales go towards the costs of the wedding. Additional donations/gifts are optional. No idea who "hosts" this or if it replaces a traditional wedding shower. In my head I'm imagining horrific poems on mason jars begging for spare change to cover costs of flowers and cake.
It sounds terrifying. I'm not sure I've come across this topic on the E board and was curious about a little background on it. New knotties and lurkers: more info to come but in the meantime, don't have a wedding fundraiser.