My fiancé and I are having a small 40 person ceremony & cocktail hour and then a 350 person reception in 3 short months. All plans are finalized almost, guest list set, we just can't agree on one thing- the ceremony/cocktail hour guest list.
I wanted the entire wedding small and he wanted the whole wedding huge so this was our compromise.
The background here is that my father passed away 7 years ago and he's paying for this wedding with money my mom set aside after he passed.
The issue: my fiancé's best man's girlfriend. My fiancé and the best man, we'll call him Sam, have been best friends for 25 years. Sam and his girlfriend, Karen, live together. She never personally offended me until recent when she drunkly came to our house and hit on my fiancé numerous times in front of me by caressing his thigh and asked if he waxed his shaft! This girl has no respect for herself or me and I cannot have her at my ceremony.
My fiancé says that if I do not let her come to the ceremony I will ruin his relationship with Sam. He's probably right too because Sam is immature and wouldn't understand any of this.
I'm using church pews at my ceremony and my wedding planner has shown me - there will be 4 pews in total. I will see everyone's face. Then our 40 close family and friends will be spending quality time together before the reception. No room for Karen.
I have 2 bridesmaids who aren't family but are best friends and their boyfriends ARE invited to the ceremony. They are both coming from New York and have never hit on me and I've known them for over 6 years. My fiancé thinks they shouldn't be invited if Karen cannot come but I don't see why my best friends should be punished because his best friend is dating someone like that?
Needless to say, Karen's presence at every wedding event that features alcohol makes me nervous because she's a loose cannon/goose.
I haven't been a bitch about anything with this wedding or had to have anything one particular way but this is serious! On one hand this is the last gift my dad is ever going to give me and I don't want to keep appeasing everyone except me. On the other hand I may ruin my husband's longest friendship because I'm being a brat.
I think I am being fair to everyone by allowing her to come to the reception. I need some advice.