Wedding Party Hair Appointments

kmbay84

Hey wonderful knotties!

So, I was just curious about something and was wondering what others thought.  My aunt works at a salon that we could use to get all of our hair done for the wedding.  I definitely want mine done, but I want to give my bridesmaids the option.  My aunt checked around the area for us and their is pretty much the only place that could take on all of us at the same time.  An up-do would cost $75, including a half-up/half-down, and a shampoo and basic style would cost $30.  Makeup would be an additional $25-30.  Now, I am just going to present the option to them and tell them that if they want to do their own hair and make-up back at the hotel, that is perfectly good with me.  It is their choice.  I just feel bad that the up-do would cost that much and frankly I am nervous to send out a mass email to present the option to them since I guess my aunt needs to know by Monday to book the spots.  Is that a lot of money or is that about average?  Am I just over-reacting?  I can't afford to pay for their hair, which is a reason as to why I am going to give them the option and not make it necessary.  Should I be nervous about presenting this option to them with how much it will cost?

I am sure being in the week of finals is adding to my emotions.  My emotions are all over the place and my stress level is super high.  I have also had bad experiences with friends so I am sure that is increasing my nerves.  I just feel terrible saying this is how much it will cost you ladies, even though it's completely optional.  Am I going overboard?

Thanks!

kat1114

I just emailed my bridesmaids and said if you want hair and/or makeup done, it's $x for hair and $x for makeup. I said no pressure either way, just thought I'd offer since I'm getting mine done. Some of my girls did both, some just makeup.

Just present your girls with the option, and if they want it/can afford it, they'll do it. So long as you aren't putting pressure on them to get hair and makeup, I don't think you have to worry about anyone balking at the price.

kmbay84

Thanks @kat114!  That's what I figured.  I feel better that you did that too.  Yeah, that's my plan, just present the option, give them the price value, and let them choose without any pressure.  Thank you!  I am sure this seems rather simple, but I hate delegating and my stress level is really high right now.

Thanks again!

larrygaga

Where I come from, that's a lot. I'm paying that much for an "expensive" hair dresser but my maids have one coming to the house for about 30 for an updo. I'll let them choose but I'm sure they will all pick the cheaper one.  But yeah, email them about prices and tell them if they want to make an appointment, call X number and speak with X. Then just leave it up to them. 

JennyColada

It's not cheap, but I don't think that it's an outrageous price. I certainly wouldn't side eye you for simply giving me the option. Personally, I'd probably like to go and get my hair done with you at the salon, and I'd pay that much for the experience and to spend the morning with you!

theartistformerlyknownas

Idk what area you're in, but those prices seem reasonable to me (metro Detroit). As long as you just present them with prices without pressuring them, you're in the clear.

kmbay84

Thanks ladies!  I guess I would just need to relay the number of those interested back to my mom and my mom would let my aunt know.  I feel like that is a lot too, which is why I feel terrible, but I guess that is the best price that can do that sort of thing in the area.  I was thinking that we could all go together to the salon and then those who want their hair and make up done could do so and those that don't could hang and chat with us.  Does that sound reasonable?

I am just such a people-pleaser that I hate making people feel bad or pressured, much less my very good friends! 

Aww..thanks @JennyColada!

kat1114

kmbay84 said:

Thanks ladies!  I guess I would just need to relay the number of those interested back to my mom and my mom would let my aunt know.  I feel like that is a lot too, which is why I feel terrible, but I guess that is the best price that can do that sort of thing in the area.  I was thinking that we could all go together to the salon and then those who want their hair and make up done could do so and those that don't could hang and chat with us.  Does that sound reasonable?

I am just such a people-pleaser that I hate making people feel bad or pressured, much less my very good friends! 

Aww..thanks @JennyColada!

The only issue I see with that is timing. If I was doing my own hair and makeup, I'd probably want to use that time to get myself ready.

I don't think you have to worry so much about the cost. Obviously, it varies by the area, but to me, it sounds reasonable. My girls paid $59 for each (auto 18% gratuity was included), and they all thought it was a great deal. Although, my hair lady didn't charge extra for an up-do. But if you're girls don't think it's reasonable, they'll just decline. 

I'm sure there are tons of things stressing you out right now between school and wedding planning, but don't let this be one of them!

kmbay84

Good point @kat114!  The ceremony will be at 4:30, so I was thinking if we have the appointments in the morning, then there could be enough time for them to get ready back at the hotel.  You are right though and I will definitely have to think about that.  I just feel bad leaving them back at the hotel, but you are right that maybe they would rather use that time to do their own hair and make-up. 

I just need to breathe, relax, and not think about this right now, like you said @kat114! 

Thank you ladies!

theartistformerlyknownas

kmbay84 said:

Good point @kat114!  The ceremony will be at 4:30, so I was thinking if we have the appointments in the morning, then there could be enough time for them to get ready back at the hotel.  You are right though and I will definitely have to think about that.  I just feel bad leaving them back at the hotel, but you are right that maybe they would rather use that time to do their own hair and make-up. 

I just need to breathe, relax, and not think about this right now, like you said @kat114! 

Thank you ladies!

Couldn't they still get ready at the salon? When I've had just my hair done for events they always allowed me to do my makeup there too. I'm sure if you have a few people paying for services they could spare a mirror or two.

kmbay84

That's true @lolo883.  That's good to know.  I just wasn't sure if that was possible or if they allowed people to do their own hair at salons.  Thank you!