Recap of the 2014 weddings

lovedryn

Wegl13 said:

lovedryn said:

I have been to three. All shit shows.

One was a go fund me hell. They had go fund me on the invites, and even announced another one since bride was preggers and had decided to quit her job at 8 weeks to take care of baby. (She worked a desk job at a student library so I am skeptical of the whole ordeal. Especially considering it was still ok to go out to parties and have a "few" drinks with friends every weekend.) Groom got drunk and ended up with his hands on about every girl there. And was later found in the bride's getting ready room getting a blow job from an ex (also shitfaced). So yeah... You can imagine the joys of that whole experience.

The other two weren't quite so bad. One PPD. Both with cash bars. And for my old college roommate's wedding, she decided to drop me as a BM two weeks out because I couldn't fit her perfect height match for her FI's emergency replacement GM. The original guy had an appendectomy and couldn't fly out for the wedding. Needless to say we don't talk anymore.

Did those first people actually get married?!?!?

Yep. The bride decided to stay.

jenna8984

@futuremrsn3312 I really want to watch that and my work has it blocked!

yogapants

Friend's wedding - Venue was very fitting for the bride and groom (in the middle of nowhere, literally on a breeding farm), ceremony was weird (bride and groom washed each other's feet), the ceremony and reception were at the same place so the 'gap' was minimal and was hosted with sweet tea/lemonade/wine/beer, open wine/beer but the bartender did have a tip jar so that was uncomfortable, food was just okay, they had pie instead of cake but the pie was fantastic. Nice enough wedding.

Cousin's wedding - Ceremony was on a (public) beach and they wedding party was 40 minutes late, so all the guests sat there sweltering on the beach while watching half-naked people run around in swimsuits. Processional and ceremony lasted about 10 minutes. My crazy aunt was somehow even later than the bridal party and nearly crashed through the processional as the bride was coming down the beach. Unhosted gap of about an hour, hour and a half? But we were so sweaty that we went back to the hotel and freshened up anyway. Reception was beautiful, fully open bar, best wedding food I've ever had. Bride left the groom (my cousin) four months after the wedding. No skin off her nose, since the entire thing was funded by the groom and his parents, much like their lives for the past 7 years.

(I'm not saying that you have to stay with someone for x amount of time before you're allowed to leave if you're unhappy. But this particular bride, who did not come from money, somehow developed the attitude that she should be a kept woman. My cousin bought a house for them to live in together rather than living with his parents as they'd been doing during every school break since the beginning of their relationship, and she was upset that he was no longer able to hand her money to go shopping. It would've been nice of her to ditch him before he and his parents dropped 25-30 grand on a wedding, that's all.)

maeday2

FI's best friend got married in June on my birthday weekend. FI was best man and this was a shitshow of a wedding. 

The groom's family has property on a private lake, so they got married there. Nice concept, but AWFUL execution. I rode with FI's friends as FI had to be there early that day to help set up in 90 degree weather in the Mississippi delta. He then had no access to a shower before putting on a three piece wool suit. His shirt was drenched in sweat by the time the outdoor ceremony started. 

We had to park in a dirt field and were supposed to wait for the one horse carriage to bring us down a dirt road to the ceremony, but this horse only came around once every 20 minutes and could only take about 4-5 people each run. No worries, there were four wheelers to bring you in. I was not dressed for this, whatsoever. 

I stood for the wedding because there weren't enough chairs. Luckily I had my clutch to fan myself while we waited for each person in the processional to come in on this horse carriage. The mothers/grandmothers came in, then the bridesmaids, then her. Between each of these drop offs, was about 20 minutes. 

Walking down the hill to the reception, I noticed there are no chairs under the tent with tables. Whoops, I was supposed to carry my own down the hill! Sand floor under the tent with wedges on = sandy feet all night. The food sucked. It was all cold. FI didn't get any as they ran out before he got down the hill after pictures. 

It was blazing hot, so of course there was an campfire with which to make smores. At least it somewhat kept the mosquitoes away. Lastly, the bathrooms were back up the hill. (Length of a football field, uphill) 

That was cathartic. So much suck in one place. 

snarkymaid

esstee33 said:

OMG, @snarkymaid. That sounds awwwwwwful. 

It has turned me off of being a bridesmaid ever again (but was the inspiration for my username). There was also a Disney honeyfund and as far as I know, they did not go to Disney. I gave them a gift card for the physical store they were registered at because I didn't trust them to actually cash a check if I gave one. 

They aren't bad people. But it was a total shitshow leading up to the wedding and I would not have blamed her if she had decided to elope instead.

JaniV123

I was invited to my cousins wedding but we couldn't attend because it was in wisconsin and plane tickets were too expensive

2015 we have 3 weddings so far including our own

Chipmunk415

My March North FL wedding was wonderful. We were worried about the weather the day before, but it was clear, cool, and sunny the day of. Everything flowed great, food was delicious, no cash bar, no dollar dance, just a feel of a swanky restaurant with great conversation and some chick in a white wedding dress  There was one guest who showed up in a white eyelet dress and blue cardigan- she's a friend of my dad's, super sweet but occasionally does silly stuff. People are still talking about my ceremony and how smoothly everything went, along with the fondue fountain we had in place of a grooms cake.

There was also, sadly, the wedding that wasn't. BIL was supposed to marry FSIL in September in GA. After BIL passed away, FSIL's mother quickly got rid of all the wedding stuff so FSIL would not have to see it. They'd just put the down payment on the honeymoon, and I think FSIL and my in laws managed to get the money back from Sandals.  I do know, however, that there would have been drink tickets for the bar if this wedding had occurred.

Not a 2014 wedding, but I had a friend get married December 28th 2013 that deserves the nod. We went (had sent gift of crock pot in advance, brought a card with a gift card to a fave restaurant of bride and groom to ceremony). DH and I were invited to attend the RD last minute. We fully expected to pay for our portion, and did- so did everyone else, there was no pre planning of one payor, and no mention of this to other guests.  There was a 2.5 hour gap between ceremony and dinner, with what was supposed to be a "tea" in the church fellowship hall while they did photos. Not enough tea, coffee, or nibbles. Groom's a nice guy, but the family is all snobby- ignored all of the bride's limited family in attendance, along with all the friends of bride and groom. Reception went ok, spent a bit of time with the bride.

We're now a week away from the one week anniversary. No thank you notes have been sent.  The bride called me crying in February- her photographer lost about 3/4 of all the photos, and she'd wanted to send out photos with the thank you notes. I suggested gently that she send the notes out NOW, find out what photos were salvageable, and work with the photographer to get at least part of the money back- everyone would understand getting photos later.  She did not take my advice. I love this girl to pieces, feel awful she's lost most of her wedding photos, etc, but I was a bit annoyed at the lack of note.

LadyMillil

The only wedding I actually attended this year was my own. It was pretty great but FREEZING outside so I had to give up my "vision" of an outdoor wedding for the comfort of my guests.

BSC sis had a reverse PPD (married in the eyes of the church but not legally married). I heard she was trying to change her name so it seems like the legal part has been done now. I didn't go but the entire wedding was a nightmare of cash bar, 3 hour gaps, Pinterest explosion, not enough chairs, outdoors in super hot weather with no shade, no parking, etc etc.

I was invited to another wedding this year that I didn't attend. I snarked on the invitation fiasco a few weeks ago. To recap - bride asked mutual friend to drop off the invitation with me during a business trip. Business trip was cancelled, bride wouldn't take the invitation back and told friend it was her responsibility to get it to me. Friend wasn't invited to the wedding. Bride also taunted single ladies with the bouquet and forced them to participate in the toss.

FiancB

Some friends had a DW in March in Mexico that we didn't make it to, but they had an at home reception here that was nice to go to. That was when we told everyone we were planning on moving to the area so no more 4 hour  trips to see our friends, so that was exciting. The reception was simple, at a restaurant with appetizers.

Some other friends got married in May. Nice wedding, although we were kind of the only ones that kept the dance floor going. The groom as a joke wanted Livin La Vida Loca and the DJ took that to mean they wanted mariachi music all night long until he was told otherwise. Also was limited bar for an hour or two before going to cash. 

My friend's brother got married here a couple weeks after that but I kind of didn't realize I was invited until the last minute so I declined since it was so soon after the other and before ours. I wish I would've gone though. I would've been able to hang out with my bestie that I only see about once a year at this point, though she flew in to hang out with me for a week around my wedding so that was super fun. 

Then ours was in June and of course it was awesome. We're the last in our group of friends to get married so we don't have a whole lot more weddings to go to in the near future. 

mrscomposer

1) Destination wedding in Jamaica in January.  It was a lovely wedding.  Also, Jamaica.

2) My cousin's outdoor wedding in beautiful weather in June.  It was also lovely, but the excessive gap was a bit boring.

3) My sister's wedding, which was gorgeous - I did feel bad for her, though, because she wasn't feeling well, couldn't sleep the night before, and was so tired by the end that you could tell she was ready for the reception to be done so she could sleep and hopefully get rid of her headache

4) Ours, which was the best wedding in the history of weddings.  True story.

5) Last one of the year - yesterday.  Just went to the ceremony and skipped out on the three hour gap and reception (because Nutcracker).  Groom brought the house down when he vowed to "love you, even when you're being difficult", because that's the bride and everyone (including her) knows it.

ETA: a friend who was at both our wedding and the one this weekend texted to say that he was sad at the last wedding, because he now holds our wedding as the standard to which he will now judge every wedding, ever.

Blergbot

Two weddings...

1. SIL. It was very nice, although the judge that performed the ceremony was cheesy and full of himself (we were considering him as well, so I'm actually super grateful that we got a test run). As a family member, I got to witness a pre-event freak out about placement of the ceremony chairs, and thought they could have benefited from a DOC. We got seated across from people we didn't know. They were interesting...but I also felt like I was set up on a blind date with these people. We never received a thank you note for a very nice gift we gave them (and I know she knew it was from us).

2. Our awesome wedding! I hate to say it, but ours was way better/ more fun. Above SIL did help out with the centerpieces, which I'm super grateful for, but she didn't even get us a card and was happy to take two centerpieces home with her. We are a little late getting our thank yous out, due to being pregnant/buying and moving into our new house/me finishing grad school, but they will out out this week!

thisismynickname2

For 2014 we had three weddings, including our own.  All of them were fabulous! Honestly! The only faux pas was that one of them had a significant unhosted gap. However, that reception was also the first black-tie reception I've been to so I forgave the gap when I was stuffed on wonderful food and dancing my butt off to a great band.  

Next year we have three and besides the fact that one has a gap, I'm fairly certain they'll all be otherwise well-hosted and fun too.  Gaps are common in my area, unfortunately. 

flutteringinfl

No weddings for me this year. I'm not close with a lot of people who are getting married. But that's cool. My mom attended her cousin's daughter's wedding, and I got a play-by-play of that from both my mother and grandmother. Apparently the ceremony was an hour, so long that the bride's brother passed out because he locked his knees. It was outdoors in November in the NE, and part of the food was for some reason set up outside, so there was some dishes they didn't even eat because it was too damn cold out. They also had a honeyfund. Other than that I'm told it was a lovely evening. Favors were milk and cookies and s'mores kits, which I just thought sounded adorable.

Next year I'm attending a close friend's wedding in October, and then my own in November!