So my fiancée and I are having some major issues with his mom about the rehearsal dinner and we need help. His mom wants to have an Italian themed rehearsal dinner with the colors red, green, and white and she wants to have a heavy and late dinner. We both hate the idea we want something simple and romantic. We want something light for dinner and something early, the rehearsal dinner isn’t and all night party. We both hate that color combination and we are afraid it will look more like a fiesta or Christmas. All she wants this rehearsal dinner to be is about is her family and how they are Italian, my whole family is well aware that her and her family are Italians, she really doesn’t have a lot of Italian in her and her husband has no Italian in him. She is just making it about her side of the family. On top of that her style if very old fashion and my FI and I are afraid she is going to make this tacky and cheesy. We have already told her that we didn’t like this idea and she threw a fit like a little child. Also our rehearsal dinner is going to have almost 50 guest which is half or wedding, these are all of her out of town family is there any way we can cut that down or do we have to invite all of her family from out of town. I feel like we are being the selfish ones and we just shouldn’t say anything, but she is always is telling us how this wedding is about us and the decisions are ours to make. So far my whole wedding has been what everyone else wants and what is convent for them and my FI and I are tired of this wedding be about everyone else. We both care about the rehearsal dinner and want to to be simple and romantic.
Anyone that has suggestions please help me!!!