Wedding Invivations - Help!!

marg1046

Thats not what I said by any means.  I meant that if I was invited separately from my parents at the age of 18, I would have felt obligated to bring my own gift.  And I DON'T want people to feel that way.  

marg1046

Screw you.  That's not what i said.  

Apparently you are the one who has the self absorbed brain. Maybe you should have read my response for making such an idiotic statement. 

mikenberger

maggie12345678 said:

Screw you.  That's not what i said.  

Apparently you are the one who has the self absorbed brain. Maybe you should have read my response for making such an idiotic statement. 

Maggie0829

maggie12345678 said:

I understand this was an etiquette page. I was just posting a response as I was still obviously having some confusion on the topic as to why it "is the way it is".  Everyone has jumped on me saying I am rude and I am going to offend my guests.  You are all RUDE and have not been pleasant people to deal with.  Thank you for the input. 

We explained why it is that way.  Multiple times actually.

maggie12345678 said:

Yes, technically you are an adult at 18.  But I didn't pay any bills nor did I have enough money to purchase a gift for someone if they invited me separately to their wedding.  

A lot of adults whether they be 18 or 80 may not have the money to buy you a gift.  Hell a lot of adults have trouble paying their bills any months.  And even more young adults (those that have graduated college and even slightly older, have had to move back in with their parents because of the economy.  None of that precludes them from getting their own invite.

Honestly, at this point I think you are just arguing to argue.  This is a pretty simple issue you are having but instead of just saying "oh, okay cool, all adults get invites regardless" you are disagreeing because "wah, I don't want to deal with it!"

marg1046

Thank you everyone for your responses.  If you could all please refrain from comment on this post any further it would be appreciated.  My words have been turned and twisted into something they aren't.  It seems that the Knot community board is filled with a bunch of women that are just ready to jump on someone else for asking a question or questioning something that is "proper etiquette"  I never once stated that if i invited them separately i would want more money.  I actually hope that NO ONE brings a gift to my wedding because I just want to enjoy the day with the people that mean most to me. 

Thank you again and have a wonderful rest of your day.  I hope some of you can find something better to do with your lives than to jump on an innocent post. 

lyndausvi

maggie12345678 said:

Thats not what I said by any means.  I meant that if I was invited separately from my parents at the age of 18, I would have felt obligated to bring my own gift.  And I DON'T want people to feel that way.  

really?

Gifts are not required anyway.  Invitations are not give me a gift cards.

Regardless as an adult it's pretty silly for you (general you) to expect your parents to pick up a gift simply because you were on a the same invite.  

That is crazy talk.   Invitations are not "the oldest people on the invite should provide the gift" cards.   Not saying that doesn't often happen, but still.    

slothiegal

plainjane0415 said:

maggie12345678 said:

I understand this was an etiquette page. I was just posting a response as I was still obviously having some confusion on the topic as to why it "is the way it is".  Everyone has jumped on me saying I am rude and I am going to offend my guests.  You are all RUDE and have not been pleasant people to deal with.  Thank you for the input. 

I'm not understanding how responding to your question was rude.

Because we didn't give her the answer she wanted.

plainjane0415

maggie12345678 said:

Thats not what I said by any means.  I meant that if I was invited separately from my parents at the age of 18, I would have felt obligated to bring my own gift.  And I DON'T want people to feel that way.  

They won't... If they want to give a gift they will, if they don't they won't... and that's totally ok!  Because gifts are not required in regards to a wedding. You cannot control every single part of your wedding... Especially your guests' actions.  All you can do is follow etiqette guidelines, and everything else will work itself out.

mikenberger

maggie12345678 said:

Thank you everyone for your responses.  If you could all please refrain from comment on this post any further it would be appreciated.  My words have been turned and twisted into something they aren't.  It seems that the Knot community board is filled with a bunch of women that are just ready to jump on someone else for asking a question or questioning something that is "proper etiquette"  I never once stated that if i invited them separately i would want more money.  I actually hope that NO ONE brings a gift to my wedding because I just want to enjoy the day with the people that mean most to me. 

Thank you again and have a wonderful rest of your day.  I hope some of you can find something better to do with your lives than to jump on an innocent post. 

marg1046

Please stop. Thank you 

plainjane0415

maggie12345678 said:

Screw you.  That's not what i said.  

Apparently you are the one who has the self absorbed brain. Maybe you should have read my response for making such an idiotic statement. 

Talk about rude!

Maggie0829

maggie12345678 said:

Thank you everyone for your responses.  If you could all please refrain from comment on this post any further it would be appreciated.  My words have been turned and twisted into something they aren't.  It seems that the Knot community board is filled with a bunch of women that are just ready to jump on someone else for asking a question or questioning something that is "proper etiquette"  I never once stated that if i invited them separately i would want more money.  I actually hope that NO ONE brings a gift to my wedding because I just want to enjoy the day with the people that mean most to me. 

Thank you again and have a wonderful rest of your day.  I hope some of you can find something better to do with your lives than to jump on an innocent post. 

mikenberger

maggie12345678 said:

Please stop. Thank you 

maeday2

@mikenberger That sloth gets me to snort every damn time. They're so human-like. 

Maggie0829

maggie12345678 said:

Please stop. Thank you 

What do you not get about the whole you can't tell others how to post?  If you don't want to read any more responses then I suggest you stop clicking on your thread.  Easy solution.

mikenberger

maeday2 said:

@mikenberger That sloth gets me to snort every damn time. They're so human-like. 

I have developed a love of sloths. They're just like "I don't give a fuck. Live slow. Die whenever."

marg1046

That was in response to someone basically calling me money hungry. Please stop commenting on things .

plainjane0415

@maeday2 I love your siggy..

Maggie0829

maggie12345678 said:

That was in response to someone basically calling me money hungry. Please stop commenting on things .

If you want to respond to a specific person it would help to use the quote feature.

maeday2

plainjane0415 said:

@maeday2 I love your siggy..

Thank you! There may or may not have been a dance session to Merry Christmas and Happy Holidayssssss on the way to work this morning. I can't get down with Mariah's high notes, so Nsync keeps it real festive. 

marg1046

Is there a way to delete this? It was taken much too far.  

mikenberger

maggie12345678 said:

Is there a way to delete this? It was taken much too far.  

Nope. It'll be here forever. Have you been to the internet before? 

AddieCake

Fuck them again if they don't bring a separate gift. Only invite people with jobs to make sure this doesn't happen. You gotta stand your ground with these living-at-home, non gift-givers. Don't let them ruin your day! You don't need to put up with that shit.

Maggie0829

maggie12345678 said:

Is there a way to delete this? It was taken much too far.  

Like I said in another post, how about you just not look at this thread anymore?  That way you won't see what people are saying and typically when the OP stops responding the thread dies.  Again, easy solution...but apparently you don't like taking the easy route.

levioosa

Man, work gets busy for two hours....

OP, no one was being rude.  You asked about proper etiquette.  Posters responded.  Then you told us you would think about it and potentially ignore our advice anyways.  So why bother asking?  Proper etiquette is not an opinion, and our responses were not just "opinions." 

You have also posted on a public forum.  As such, people may respond to anything you post.  If you say that you are asking about an invite, but include that you are having a cash bar (in theory), you better believe people will post about the cash bar too.  You can't dictate the post.  If you stick around and lurk, you'll actually find incredibly helpful advice that keep you from looking like an ass to your friends and family. 

kat1114

All of OP's request to stop replying to this thread just make me want to keep replying.

arrrghmatey

So I totally just tried to post something funny and it's not showing up, hahaha, It's simple: ETIQUETTE states that anyone 18 or older gets their own invitation, regardless of whether they are living in the same household or not. And if they are in a relationship, their SO's are to be invited. They are not required to bring a gift (nobody is).

arrrghmatey

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redoryx

maggie12345678 said:

Thats not what I said by any means.  I meant that if I was invited separately from my parents at the age of 18, I would have felt obligated to bring my own gift.  And I DON'T want people to feel that way.  

For the record, NOBODY is obligated to bring a gift. Doesn't matter if they are 18 or 80, invited on their own invitation or with someone else. 

Viczaesar

maggie12345678 said:

Is there a way to delete this? It was taken much too far.