EVERYONE says we will regret our honeymoon...

ambiguousbride

My fiance and I will have been together for 10yrs when we finally say "I do" we have a son who will be three and half at our wedding but just over four when we had planned to take our "honeymoon"
We want to go to Disney in FL, the three of us, as a family. We have gotten some serious flack for it, but I honestly can't imagine a more enjoyable way to spend a vacation. Seeing my son meet Mickey and the Toy Story characters would be so fantastic. This was our first choice when we started talking about a honeymoon too. I also have family down there that could mind our son for a night or two so we could have some alone time.
Are there any parents out there that can relate or have some feedback?

CMGragain

We didn't really have a full honeymoon.  We had two nights in a Kansas City hotel mini-moon.  No regrets.

Lowell14

If you want to go as a family, I say go for it. I went to Portugal for my honeymoon, with my parents since we were staying at their apartment. Some find it strange but we enjoyed our honeymoon. I think people can get the idea that it's not a honeymoon unless it's just the 2 of you going away.

AddieCake

A honeymoon is just a vacation with another name. If you want to take your son along, that is your business and nobody else's. Plenty of people with kids go on getaways at other times without their children, so you can always go on a different getaway/vacation in the future if you need time to yourselves. Just because you are calling this vacation your honeymoon does not mean you can't make it a family vacation. It's just a word.

JoanE2012

The honeymoon does not involve other people.  Do what makes you guys happy!

nicole4793

I know a lot of people that went to Disney for their honeymoon. My FI's brother and his wife went there (didn't have kids at that time) and had a blast. It's about what you want to do, not everyone else. You're going to have a great time! 

AddieCake

nicole4793 said:

I know a lot of people that went to Disney for their honeymoon. My FI's brother and his wife went there (didn't have kids at that time) and had a blast. It's about what you want to do, not everyone else. You're going to have a great time! 

The concern, I believe, from the naysayers isn't about the location. It's about bringing their child.

kimberly0315

I think it sounds great and my daughter would love it!

dolewhipper

I think it's great! Though I'm biased because I live and work in Mickey Mouse land.

There are a few companies, including Disney themselves, that provide childcare in case you want a night or dinner to yourselves and your family isn't available. They are available at most of the Deluxe Resorts on Disney property and another company called Kids Nite Out (highly recommended) provides these services as well. If you'd like personal recommendations on caregivers, PM me. 

People don't realize how adult orientated Disney can be, and with the caregiving options available, you can have adult time as well. This is YOUR vacation, and you should enjoy it how you choose!

traditionallyuntraditional

We have children and are going alone to Hawaii. As we love being with our children and making them happy truly makes us feel amazing we did not want to take them with us on our honeymoon. It's a rare occasion that we get more than an hour alone together and we realize that as they get older it will not get easier so we are leaving them with Grandma. Our decision is right for us but that doesn't mean its the "right" answer for everyone. If you want to spend time as a family and bond after the wedding you should do it but if you want to spend time alone you won't get a lot of that with your son and you should make other plans. It all about what you want out of the trip.

JennyColada

While I'm not a parent (so take my opinion with a grain of salt), I can't imagine going on a vacation without my family! I think that I'd WANT to spend time with my kid. It's something that seems exciting and fun (and like hard work too, but you know what I mean), so I can't see ever regretting doing something that I really love and spending time with people who play an important role in all of my relationships.

[Deleted User]

My only recommendation is look into the babysitting services available if you are staying at one of the resort hotels. A co-worker of mine did that so that they could have a few adult hours and went out for a romantic dinner and drinks. They loved having a few hours to themselves. So this way you can still have plenty of family time, but a little adult time can be a good thing too.

ShesSoCold

I invited my mom and stepdad on our honeymoon. Every person, situation and family is different. Screw what people say.

kinney0515

FI and I have known Disney would be our location since we started dating- and we don't have a kiddo yet!  So I say go for it!  To us it's the most magical place on earth- so where better to honeymoon to? :P

kinney0515

Ps. If you go out to eat in the Magic Kingdom area (fancy restaurants all exist at the four MK resorts- Wilderness Lodge, Polynesian, Contemporary, and Grand Floridian) the best place to drop kids off for some adult time is the Neverland Club at the Polynesian. You don't have to be staying there or eating there to use it- it's something like 15.00 an hour per child.  (I know because I worked there when I was 18 hah!) 

Kids seem to love that one the best- and you can get to lots of restaurants easily. It's open until midnight  Not sure how much of a Disney freak you are- but I highly suggest getting involved on disboards.com if you haven't yet.

SBmini

I think it is really sweet that you want to include your son on your honeymoon. Forget the haters. 

theartistformerlyknownas

AddieCake said:

A honeymoon is just a vacation with another name. If you want to take your son along, that is your business and nobody else's. Plenty of people with kids go on getaways at other times without their children, so you can always go on a different getaway/vacation in the future if you need time to yourselves. Just because you are calling this vacation your honeymoon does not mean you can't make it a family vacation. It's just a word.

This. It's just a vacation. Do what you want to do and have a great time!

decembergrl2014

I agree with the others. Your honeymoon is YOUR business. Go with your H and son, and have a great time!!!

wrigleyville

Some friends took some other friends along on their honeymoon, as those other friends had always wanted to go to France. The couple who got married knew they'd all have a great time together (and they did).

They called it a "Buddymoon".

levioosa

Do what you and your FI want to do.  If that means going as a family to DL, then fantastic.  If that means going on a romantic trip alone to Fiji, then do it.  No one gets to have a say beyond you two.  If people won't leave it alone just say, "Oh we're still working on the details," and then bean dip (change the subject).