My son will soon be marrying a lovely girl. My ex-husband and I will be hosting the rehearsal dinner. My son's in-laws are paying for most of their wedding. I have been unable to contribute much due to financial reasons. The mother, therefore, believes she has full rein to control all aspects of this wedding. We have chosen a room at a nice restaurant for the rehearsal dinner. We were planning on hosting no more than 40 people. Of note, as I cannot contribute financially to the wedding, I was informed that I was only allowed to invite 20 people maximum to the wedding, including relatives. I was then informed by her that I was expected to host not only the rehearsal dinner, but also a shower and a brunch the day after the wedding. She told me last night at a family event that she and her husband went "to view" the room we had chosen for the rehearsal dinner and that she thought "it was too small" and wouldn't accomodate all of her guests. We were only planning on having the bridal party, immediate family and out-of-towners. I was stunned-into silence by her remarks, and just ignored her. She is so controlling that neither my son nor her daughter ever stand-up to her. I do not wish to cause stress during the planning process, but feel her actions are out-of-line. Thought, suggestions, comments???