I have an awkward situation on my hands. Due to a relatively tight budget, FI and I had to make some pretty unfortunate decisions on our guest list--this has meant leaving some not-as-close friends off the guest list. Yesterday, I had a conversation with one of these friends, in which she offered to help us with music, adding "Of course, if I'm invited. I won't be offended if I'm not." Although I politely declined her offer to help, I'm now feeling pretty guilty for not inviting her... this particular friend did invite me to her wedding last year, and I did attend. However, she made it explicitly clear that I was not allowed to bring my FI (then boyfriend), due to their own budget restraints, so I went alone. It was uncomfortable for me and upsetting for him, so we didn't feel bad scratching them off the guest list when the time came to make cuts. To be clear, we're not leaving them off the guest list as punishment... if we had a higher budget, I would love to have them there! But we simply cannot invite everyone, and we'd rather have people there who have seemed more supportive of our relationship. Is this rude of us?