Hey guys: i just need some perspective here! Please feel free to lend any advice you have!
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 3 years now. His sister and her partner have been going out the same amount of time. She just got engaged in November. I am beyond excited for them! And i can not wait for their day to come! Since they have gotten engaged, my boyfriend and I have begun to have deeper conversations about engaged and have actually decided to get engaged within the next few months. I was really excited for him to tell me that- UNTIL i found out that my soon to be sister in law as well as my mother in law think that, that (getting engaged and/or married) would be stealing his sister's thunder.
But let me make one thing known- she has set her wedding for July 2016!!! That means i would have to wait over a year and a half to get engaged? Or if we decided to get engaged, to plan a wedding?!? I just dont think thats fair!
Just cause she wants to wait that long- does that mean I should? My only sister is leaving the country in the fall of 2016 and i want her to be there with me for the planning and the wedding.
Would i really be stealing her thunder if we got engaged or married (at least 6 months) before her? Please let me know your thoughts! I dont want to be irrational here. But i also dont want to be rude or put my life on hold just for her ...