Ok here's a bit of background- my FMIL, has been engaged for about 2 years to her FI (they dated for 4 years before getting engaged). Her fiancé is a widow whose wife passed about 12 years ago. FMIL Fi has two sons both in their 30's and they both have a significant other and children. We were all asked to come to their home tonight and they decided to have a surprise wedding. The ceremony was short and sweet and afterward we all went into the kitchen to toast the newly weds. While we were getting ready to toast one of my now FFIL's son's wife decided to announce that she thought the whole wedding was completely inappropriate and disrespectful to FFIL's first wife's memory. FMIL was clearly upset but said she was sorry that she felt that way and FFIL's other son went on to give a wonderful toast. It broke my heart to see what was suppose to be such a happy day turned into something so sad. I feel awful for my FMIL.