Hi all! I would like some advice on an issue i'm currently experiencing. Sorry in advance if it's slightly long. Here goes....
I'm getting married in Oct. 2015 and have asked 4 girls, one is my sister, to be my BMs and my future step-daughter (7yrs. old) to be my Jr. BM. I made them each a cute little box with gifts and a card to present to them when I asked. When my sister opened the box, I explained to her that I am not having a MOH because I want my suture step daughter to feel just as important as the big girls and have the same 'title' as everyone else. I was worried that this might cause a slight issue, but that's why I explained the situation to my sister, she said she understood...so I thought.
Later that day, we (my, mom, sister and another BM) went shopping for my dress. After we found 'THE ONE' we were walking down the street to get some lunch and I overheard my sister complaining to my mom that, "I guess I'll never get to be a MOH". If there weren't people around, I would have let her have it. But I kept my cool and my mouth remained shut. My mom told her to drop the issue as well.
Now, onto the BM dress issue...I asked each girl their $ constraints and thoughts on dresses. I told them my only requests were color (navy) and the dress needed to have a matching or near identical jr. BM version (again, to make my step-daughter feel the same). I picked a few options, some short, some long, some strapless and some with straps and sent all the BMs an email with the dress options. Everyone said all options are great and whatever everyone was most comfortable in would be the pick. The day before our appointment, my sister sent me texts of dresses she found and liked (no matching Jr.BM dress and even out of her own stated price range!!!) I explained to her that the dress was identical to one I had sent her, didn't have and matching Jr. BM dress, and was even out of price range she stated!! Her response, "oh, I didn't know that a matching Jr. BM dress was a deal breaker." um, hello? I explained this to you via emails and have had a conversation with you regarding wanting my future step-daughter to feel just as important as everyone else, hence the no MOH.
Day of dress shopping, the girls decided on a dress. My one BM (who lives out of state) even agreed over video chat and loved the dress! That day, my sister didn't order the dress because she didn't have the money to do so. Ok, no problem, we have plenty of time to order. Fast forward to Christmas and my out-of-state BM was home and we went to get her sized and ordered. The girl at the dress store informed us that the dress was being discontinued and my sister still hadn't ordered. Her size was no longer available and would have to be ordered larger. I sent her a text with this information (not demanding, but I told her the situation) and again, her response was no money around Christmas and she was going to wait for her income tax to order.
I don't think my sister is going to be able to order this dress and she's been ridiculously rude at every step of this planning process so far. Yes, we've had issues in the past, but she is my sister and I would like her to be part of our day. I've tried being the mature, reasonable one and I think that I've been doing things 'the right way' so far, but please let me know if there is something I'm missing!!! Is it me? Is she just a b*tch? What do I do? If she can't order, should she be out? Help!