Ah ladies - it's happened again. While talking to a co-worker who's daughter is getting married she mentioned that her daughter is planning a wedding with a small ceremony, followed by a big reception with all their friends and family. Why? Because the young woman can't imagine walking down the aisle in front of all those people. However, in the same breath, she couldn't imagine not having all those people there to celebrate her day with her.
I cringed, apparently visibly so, and was asked my thoughts. So... I gave them. If you don't want a big ceremony, fine, but don't have a big reception. How can you justify to someone that Susy is important enough to warrant an invite to the ceremony but they're not. I just don't get it. You want a small, intimate affair? Fine. Do it. But don't have so little regard for your friends and family by inviting them to come to your reception (many who would have to travel by plane) only to inform them they're excluded from the actual wedding part of the wedding.
I guess my co-worker thought the same thing but assumed it was a 'generational' thing and didn't want to ruffle feathers. I being close to her daughters age and completely against the thought, she realized it wasn't a generational thing and will now try and talk to her daughter about changing her mind.