Groom and groomsmen attire

minttobemrsb

My fiance wants he and the groomsmen to wear this Black by Vera Wang tux (which is actually charcoal gray). I am completely fine with that as our wedding is in the evening but not too formal. The bridesmaids are wearing long mint green lace/chiffon dresses. Our flowers are peach/blush.

The salesperson said the guys should be in mint green vests and ties with the groom is white shirt, white vest, white tie.

a) aren't colored vests a little too prom-ish for a wedding? b) is my fair complected groom going to fade away and disappear in all white? He thinks it is going to wash him out. 

Ideas? The vest that matches the tux but with a mint tie? Colored vest and ties? White? (preferably not black since the rest of the wedding is pastel) 

minttobemrsb

southernbelle0915

a) Opinions vary on this, but IMO, vests/ties/etc that match the BM dresses are prom-ish. I'm not a fan at all. 

b) No, I don't think it will wash him out. If he wants to add color to break it up and still differentiate himself, he could always do a black bow tie and the GMs could wear regular ties. I would never put mint with that tux... nope nope nope. I agree with you. 

DH wore that exact tux to a wedding a couple years ago. It was something like $240 to rent. Make sure your FI is asking privately for your GM's budgets before picking a style - the groom for this wedding didn't and DH was pissed.

theartistformerlyknownas

I prefer vests that match the jackets. My H did a charcoal 3-piece suit, white shirt and this tie and looked awesome. He didn't like the stark white plus my dress was champagne and ivory. (No, the white and cream didn't clash. They're different enough that they looked purposely contrasting)

http://www.thetiebar.com/product/39058

plainjane0415

I agree with @lolo883. Matching vests and jackets look more timeless and not as cheesy (in my opinion).  One thing to keep in mind is that the sales clerks are only interested in making money for the business.

vulpiepop

You could match their vests to your girls' dresses; there's nothing wrong with that but if your groom and his groomsmen don't want colored vests then I wouldn't bother with it. 

Originally, FI wanted a colored vest but it was not only cheaper but looked better on him to just have a back vest with the black jacket. We're tying in the color with the ties. His shirt is a pale green too just because he didn't want to do white and wanted to bring in a little more color but I bought him a white shirt too just in case he changes his mind (he can wear both to business meetings or something after the wedding so it's not like it'd never get used). 

Ultimately, it's up to your FI, his groomsmen and you. Don't let salespeople sucker you into spending money for something you don't really like! Most of the ones that we came across are on commission which means the more money you spend, the more money they get.

minttobemrsb

Thanks for the help so far! The price doesn't change is we use the matching vest vs the colored vest. Thankfully we did talk to both the BM and GM about budgets so we didn't go overboard.

They are one of the pricier tuxes, but the only other gray looks very casual and black was way too dark for the color scheme.

I think we may just ask to try it on both ways and make sure, but I have a feeling the colored vests are going to be a no. I feel like if the men are wearing $200 tuxes, the shiney mint vest is going to cheapen it in comparison.

minttobemrsb

lolo883 said:

I prefer vests that match the jackets. My H did a charcoal 3-piece suit, white shirt and this tie and looked awesome. He didn't like the stark white plus my dress was champagne and ivory. (No, the white and cream didn't clash. They're different enough that they looked purposely contrasting) http://www.thetiebar.com/product/39058

So glad you said this! That was actually something we talked about. My dress is "soft white" and the lace is all ivory so we could go either way. My fiance didn't like the stark white of everything either and we considered blending it with an ivory tie. May have to convince him to give it a try when we go look this weekend. Congrats on your wedding!

CMGragain

I strongly urge you to have your men wear suits instead of tuxedos.  I don't care what Vera Wang calls it - that is not a tuxedo!  Tuxedos are black and have satin faced lapels.
If your men buy a two piece suit (no vest required), they will have a nice suit that they can keep and wear for other occasions for about the same price as a rental.  Gray suits are appropriate for any wedding except maybe royalty.  Some of the guys might already have gray suits.  They don't need to match exactly.
I am old enough to remember powder blue polyester "tuxedos" and ruffled shirts.  I think gray "tuxedos" will look just as odd in years to come.  JMHO.  Here is an excellent website that explains about tuxedos.  This is a terrific website, and has lots of information.
http://www.blacktieguide.com/Contemporary/Contemp_Lessons.htm

blabla89

Go with what your groom wants, not with what the sales lady wants. She has no place in your wedding other than to make sure that your tuxes arrive on time, in the right size. You don't need colored vests just because she suggested it (and personally I think they're prom-ish, too).