Conflicting wedding dates

Knottie20037448

Good day to you!  I’m writing because I’ve learned after my fiancé and I have set our date that his nephew and his fiancé have chosen the same date as we did.  The last I heard, their wedding was scheduled for this May, not September.  But, I was speaking to my future mother-in-law (who’s grandmother to the nephew) last night who informed me that the nephew’s date was changed to Sept. 5^th (same as ours).  I have no idea who chose the date first, as this is the first time I'm learning their date had been changed from May.

 

I don’t want to change my date b/c the nephew and his fiancé are born and raised in Georgia and almost all of their family is already here.  We specifically chose Sept. 5^th because it was a holiday weekend and would give my family, who does not live in Georgia, an extra day of travel.

 

Should we be the ones to change our date?

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Have either of you placed a deposit on your venue? 

There's no rule about who "should" be the ones to change your dates per se -- I think the best thing you could do is reach out to this couple and discuss it with them directly. Maybe they're not set on Sept. 5. 

If they had no idea that that was also the date you wanted, it sounds like this is just a big coincidence. Ultimately, neither of you are required to move you date, but it would make things easier for your families if they didn't have to choose. But speaking directly with your FNIL is best - try not to "go through" people.

Knottie20037448

No; no one has paid any deposits yet.  I don't think it was intentional.  I believe it's a coincidence.  I think your suggestion of the two couples speaking about it is a good one.  Thanks!