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crackktheskyy

I'm seriously curious about these dresses.

Pictures or I'm assuming they are hideous.

short+sassy

kmmssg said:

kristypaolucci said:

 

Have you seen the Progresso soup commercial where the BM is asked if she loves her dress and she is wearing something hideous?  Her response is "I love my sister?????"  Think about that.

That ad is hilarious!  For those who haven't, the dress is a floor length, super bouffant number in lime green satin with a big dark purple ribbon tied around the waist.  Awesome, lol.

velvethelicopters

I claim dibs to the sock monkey dress!

short+sassy

velvethelicopters said:

I claim dibs to the sock monkey dress!

Not if I get to it first, lol!  I actually love sock monkies.  Me and my dog both have sock monkey Halloween costumes.

But, yeah.  Even seen through my "sock monkey love" filter, that dress is sure....hhmmm, uhhh...something else.

velvethelicopters

Sock monkey is better than the hooha, I mean roses dresses.

levioosa

RAWR

lightningsnow

You sound like such a peach, sweetheart. Perhaps your girls were in such a crappy mood was because you chose dresses for them and had them try them on after watching you try on dresses. Seriously get over yourself. I've been in a total of two weddings, once when I was 11 and I had no input in the dress I wore and again when I was 19 and I was my SIL's MOH. At least she said to us, pick a long dress in this red that you like.

And based upon your response in the Dry wedding thread, you sound snobby and stuck up.

slothiegal

Maybe they're trying to get kicked out.  I can't exactly blame them.

velvethelicopters

levioosa said:

RAWR

I may or may not have worn the second dress. For NYE 2014.

lovesclimbing

nhs226 said:

Is there a way to change a username without creating a whole new account?

@nhs226, yes.  Hover over your name/icon in the upper left hand corner. A drop down menu will appear.  Click "My account" and then "change my username."  

thesilverbride

the girls have a choice between 3 dresses.. they're all silk and nothing is over the top.. here are their choices 

thesilverbride

there were 8 dresses to choose from originally but the girls cut down to these three as their favorites. these dresses are $75 - $125 depending on the style. I have offered to help the girls with prices if they are struggling. i just wanted to vent to my fellow brides and most of you attacked me! 

ashley8918

kristy1801 said:

there were 8 dresses to choose from originally but the girls cut down to these three as their favorites. these dresses are $75 - $125 depending on the style. I have offered to help the girls with prices if they are struggling. i just wanted to vent to my fellow brides and most of you attacked me! 

ashley8918

Oh. I can understand the hate for those particular dresses. Only the a-line would be even worth trying on because the others are way too form fitting to do anything but make me look like a beached whale. But even the a-line doesn't look like something that would be very flattering on me, honestly.

velvethelicopters

All 3 of those would be ugly or hard to wear for me. 1 & 3 are no way with needing a special bra, skirt would hang poorly with my non existent butt and my runner thighs would be a joke with the tightness of the skirt. 2 is meh, the wrap style tends to gap over my boobs, at least I could wear the skirt. But the midriff band on all three would not be pretty on me with my short torso. Plus, tight silk tends to broadcast every fat roll or bump I have.

They aren't the worst I've seen. But they're not great for all people. If you require all maids to wear the same dress, someone is bound to look or feel bad. Way easier to pick a color and length, then let them wear what suits them best.

artbyallie

kristy1801 said:

there were 8 dresses to choose from originally but the girls cut down to these three as their favorites. these dresses are $75 - $125 depending on the style. I have offered to help the girls with prices if they are struggling. i just wanted to vent to my fellow brides and most of you attacked me! 

But why can't they just each pick any of the 8? Why did the group narrow it down like that? What if one person liked something else from the original choices?

Also, for the record, no one has attacked you. An attack would constitute calling you names (saying an action would be bridezilla-ish does not count) or swearing directly at you (rather than, say, simply using profanity more generally)

novella1186

kristy1801 said:

there were 8 dresses to choose from originally but the girls cut down to these three as their favorites. these dresses are $75 - $125 depending on the style. I have offered to help the girls with prices if they are struggling. i just wanted to vent to my fellow brides and most of you attacked me! 

You've been shown more support and thoughtfulness than you've given other posters. No one attacked. And sorry but those dresses are awful. I'm not surprised your girls weren't happy about having to wear one of them. 

Maggie0829

I actually don't think those dresses are that bad and I would be fine wearing any of them.  HOWEVER, I am not one of your bridesmaids.  If none of your bridesmaids are happy with the dresses then it is time to throw those dresses out and start over.  No sense forcing them into something that they hate.  Trust me when I say, their discomfort and hatred for the dress will be seen all over their face in your pretty wedding pictures (been there, done that).

plainjane0415

kristy1801 said:

there were 8 dresses to choose from originally but the girls cut down to these three as their favorites. these dresses are $75 - $125 depending on the style. I have offered to help the girls with prices if they are struggling. i just wanted to vent to my fellow brides and most of you attacked me! 

To the bolded:  I really want to give you the benefit of the doubt on this, but please tell me that you did not address the group while dress shopping with that statement. 

mikenberger

kristy1801 said:

there were 8 dresses to choose from originally but the girls cut down to these three as their favorites. these dresses are $75 - $125 depending on the style. I have offered to help the girls with prices if they are struggling. i just wanted to vent to my fellow brides and most of you attacked me! 

You're kidding me with this. So you're not shopping within their budget? 

And please please please you didn't make this a broadcast comment. My brain hurts. 

southernbelle0915

I have no problem with those 3 dresses, but I don't know your BMs. Maybe you just start fresh with them since this was such a negative experience. Maybe take a different approach. There are literally thousands of dresses out there. 

Can you just give them a fabric, color and length from DB, Target or whatever and just let them pick what they want? That way, you've given solid - yet flexible - guidelines for them and can wash your hands of the drama. Target's BM dresses are pretty inexpensive and they're cute. 

Be careful not to alienate your best friends over something like a piece of clothing. In the big picture, you'll kick yourself for letting something stupid like this damage friendships.

WhatawagSBNy

I am slim but with generous T and A. Not one of these that I could wear without looking like a streetwalker displaying the goods. 1 and 2 are so unstructured, forget it, and the middles would be a wrinkled mess once top and bottom were filled out.
3 has no visible means of support to the top, though nicer lines for someone like me.

These gowns may look good to a bride who would look good in 3 , but a nightmare to people of different figure types.

I finally took a look at this thread. Usually I won't look at any where a bride refers to her WP as MAIDS rather than bridesmaids. There is always an attitude problem.

[Deleted User]

I could possibly wear the second dress, but maybe not. 

I would just start fresh with the girls.  I would say, "Girls, I want you to have a dress in this color in this fabric and length.  You pick what dress style best fits for your body and budget."  Ta da.

WhatawagSBNy

crabbylucy said:

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I would just start fresh with the girls.  I would say, "Girls, I want you to have a dress in this color in this fabric and length.  You pick what dress style best fits for your body and budget."  Ta da.

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YES - clean slate, and as a result , more harmony at a time when the bride and her friends should be close and happy.

Such things usually start as both sides misunderstanding why the other does not see their problems, not out of meanness.

PrettyGirlLost

Maggie0829 said:

I actually don't think those dresses are that bad and I would be fine wearing any of them.  HOWEVER, I am not one of your bridesmaids.  If none of your bridesmaids are happy with the dresses then it is time to throw those dresses out and start over.  No sense forcing them into something that they hate.  Trust me when I say, their discomfort and hatred for the dress will be seen all over their face in your pretty wedding pictures (been there, done that).

So much this.

Go back and look at the pic I posted from my wedding.  I had 10 BMs and only 3 or 4 of them would look good in one of the three dress styles you posted.

Save your self the aggravation and just pick a color and length and let your BMs pick their own dress.

levioosa

@velvethelicopters , but as a bridesmaid dress?  Lol. 

To me, OP's dresses aren't terrible, although I might not look the best in them personally, they're better than the dress that one poster "dared us to defy," that one time.  There could definitely be worse options.  I really hope OP asked for her girls budget first and is sticking to it, and that she didn't announce it to the whole group at once.  I'm not really holding my breath on that one though.

Ditto PPs who have suggested that it might be easier to let the BMs pick their own dress in the right color, length and fabric.   

lilacck28

levioosa said:

@velvethelicopters , but as a bridesmaid dress?  Lol. 

To me, OP's dresses aren't terrible, although I might not look the best in them personally, they're better than the dress that one poster "dared us to defy," that one time.  There could definitely be worse options.  I really hope OP asked for her girls budget first and is sticking to it, and that she didn't announce it to the whole group at once.  I'm not really holding my breath on that one though.

Ditto PPs who have suggested that it might be easier to let the BMs pick their own dress in the right color, length and fabric.   

REFRESHER PLEASE! I would love to see / hear about this dare defying paragon!

ETA:
to the OP: I don't love those dresses, mostly because I don't like satin (it shows all the bumps, and I think its hard to find a satin dress that looks elegant/ expensive.) But I'd deal with them if they were within my budget.

That said, picking dresses with bridesmaids IS often difficult. I found it difficult, and I told all my bridesmaids to pick whatever navy short dress they wanted that wasn't satin (two ended up already owning the same one, so then I had to find an as close to matching as possible dress for the third because she wanted to match to begin with.)

But you should remember to put your friendships first, despite the stress of the whole thing. If they will be miserable in these dresses, then have a do over. Tell them they're your ladies, you love them and want them to be happy, and you're willing to find something else.

badbnagdway

I will say this, it is annoying when the BMs only care about what they will be wearing. That is kind of lame. But at the same time, a bride should love her BMs enough to want them to feel happy and pretty. 

When we first shopped for BM dresses for my sister's wedding we divided and conquered, each of us trying on the size closest to our own, even though she was the bride and obviously wouldn't be wearing the dress. You would be amazed by how terrible almost every single BM dress looked on my beautiful size 4 sister, whereas about 50% of them looked pretty good on my size 10/12 body. She ended up deciding that with all the body shapes she just would let us pick anything in a certain color, fabric and length from one designer. Out of 10 styles, NOT A SINGLE ONE LOOKED GOOD ON ME. We are not talking a crazy sock monkey style dress, we are talking very basic dresses that for some reason just hit me all the wrong places.  I picked the least unflattering one, but my sister said no, and put me in a dress that was still the same color as the other girls but a different fabric and length. It was very flattering and I was very grateful that I got to look nice for her wedding. I am just allowing my girls to pick any purple dress they want. One of them even has a purple dress already. 

velvethelicopters

I'll rock a sock monkey dress any time a bride lets me. Or is that on the tacky NYE dress? A friend had that from some required wearing, I borrowed it. It's pretty gaudy IRL.

Most wedding party dresses look a hot mess on me. I got boobs, but no ass and big thighs from running.

PrettyGirlLost

badbnagdway said:

I will say this, it is annoying when the BMs only care about what they will be wearing. That is kind of lame. But at the same time, a bride should love her BMs enough to want them to feel happy and pretty. 

When we first shopped for BM dresses for my sister's wedding we divided and conquered, each of us trying on the size closest to our own, even though she was the bride and obviously wouldn't be wearing the dress. You would be amazed by how terrible almost every single BM dress looked on my beautiful size 4 sister, whereas about 50% of them looked pretty good on my size 10/12 body. She ended up deciding that with all the body shapes she just would let us pick anything in a certain color, fabric and length from one designer. Out of 10 styles, NOT A SINGLE ONE LOOKED GOOD ON ME. We are not talking a crazy sock monkey style dress, we are talking very basic dresses that for some reason just hit me all the wrong places.  I picked the least unflattering one, but my sister said no, and put me in a dress that was still the same color as the other girls but a different fabric and length. It was very flattering and I was very grateful that I got to look nice for her wedding. I am just allowing my girls to pick any purple dress they want. One of them even has a purple dress already. 

You just contradicted yourself with the rest of your post.

I don't think it's annoying or lame to care that I look shitty in an overpriced dress that I have to buy and then stand up in front of a ton of people wearing, and then be in a ton of photos in.

It's not like we choose to wear shit we know we look terrible in the rest of the time we go out in public.  We don't let our our friends and family dress us the rest of the time we go out, so why does it need to be any different when we are in a wedding?

I don't know when it became the "norm" for brides to pick the attire of their BMs, but I think it's time to change that "norm."