What do YOU need?

Anm9404

Lately I've been looking around the wedding industry and there seems to be a lot of different products/services out there for everything brides to be need. But is there something that you haven't found that would be the ultimate life saver during a desperate time? Maybe something that would have helped your groom know how to propose, or help you with figuring out if the napkins go with the table clothes you picked out weeks ago, or maybe even something to help the honeymoon you were to busy to really plan because of the wedding. I'd love to hear your ideas on what really needs to be in the wedding industry that no one remembered. 

slothiegal

Anm9404 said:

Lately I've been looking around the wedding industry and there seems to be a lot of different products/services out there for everything brides to be need. But is there something that you haven't found that would be the ultimate life saver during a desperate time? Maybe something that would have helped your groom know how to propose, or help you with figuring out if the napkins go with the table clothes you picked out weeks ago, or maybe even something to help the honeymoon you were to busy to really plan because of the wedding. I'd love to hear your ideas on what really needs to be in the wedding industry that no one remembered. 

This sage piece of advice:

Corny, but it's true.  (My mom actually bought a little canvas with this quote on it and I hung it up near my master whiteboard* of planning shit to keep myself in check.)  By the time "MY DAY" arrived, I really didn't care about so many things that I thought were a huge deal during the planning process.  All I cared about was marrying the motherfuckin' love of my life and partying with the most amazing people I know.  

I can't really think of any tangible service or product that would have made wedding planning smoother.  I mean, it's a stressful thing (or at least for me, I'm bad at planning dinner let alone a wedding).  But what I would really like to see in the wedding industry is more of an emphasis on planning being a joint effort.  No one else is responsible for making your wedding what you want--not your parents', not your bridesmaids, just you and your FI.  It makes me so sad when I read posts like, "what should my FI wear?!?!?"  Um, I don't know, ask him/her?  They're a part of this too....

*for reference:

charlottesmom0626

I think if someone could periodically follow me around and say things like " hey you're going to have an awesome wedding! No one gives a shit about the difference between light coral and blush" that would be awesome.

KatWAG

OP, I think you are overthinking all this wedding stuff.

thisismynickname2

I think Slothie nailed it. 

So much of "the industry" is what does the BRIDE want. You better believe my wedding was just as much, if not even more, of what did the GROOM want. 

Right after we got engaged he acted as though planning was my job. That was a laugh (sarcasm). We talked and became more of a team pretty quickly.  

Not for me, but for others- time management, stress management, and decision-making guidance. Some couples just handle planning better than others. I thought it was fairly easy. I've seen other people in my real life just stress out and become crazed.  

southernbelle0915

The only "stuff" you need is a relaxed and centered mind. The wedding industry is DEFINITELY missing that - as they try to sell you all kinds of shit you don't need and feed you articles that make you shift your focus from what's really important.

Ignore the wedding industry and focus on what you're about to do.

amelisha

I think the wedding industry is already a bloated out-of-control behemoth crammed with stuff no one needs designed to suck as much money as possible out of women who watched too much Disney in childhood, so no.

atlastmrsg

Bill.com for wedding vendors.  Would love to have paid everyone online, and with my mastercard so I could get the miles for it.  And have been done with it in a few clicks.