Do I have to invite a guest?

kmedeiros89

Ok so I have a few people on my invite list who are not in relationships with anyone...do I have to include a plus one with their invite or is it not necessary? There are a couple in particular that I know they wouldn't bring a date instead they would bring a friend that I've never actually even met before. I don't want to seem rude by not letting them bring a guest but at the same time I don't know if I want to be meeting my guests friends at my wedding. 

Jen4948

It's not necessary if they're not in relationships.

AddieCake

kmedeiros89 said:

Ok so I have a few people on my invite list who are not in relationships with anyone...do I have to include a plus one with their invite or is it not necessary? There are a couple in particular that I know they wouldn't bring a date instead they would bring a friend that I've never actually even met before. I don't want to seem rude by not letting them bring a guest but at the same time I don't know if I want to be meeting my guests friends at my wedding. 

If they are not in relationships, no, you do not need to give them a +1. However, this part bothers me. It doesn't matter if you have met a person's date before. I had several guests whose spouses I met for the first time at our reception. That should never be a factor in decided whether or not to give someone a +1 or whether or not to invite significant others. 

mlg78

As usual, what Addie said.

You don't necessarily need to include them on the invite...but I contacted them after my RSVPs started rolling in and I had enough declines and just said, "You're welcome to bring someone if you'd like!" Some did, some didn't.  Going to weddings alone sucks sometimes depending on how you know the people getting married and if there are others there you know.  It's a nice gesture.

chrisig8

I wouldn't include them with a +1  unless they are in a relationship already.  If they are married or engaged and you haven't met their significant other, then yes I would invite them with a + 1.

I have a few friends that have mentioned to me who they are going to invite as their date and I came right out and told them if they aren't in a relationship by the time I send out my invite, they aren't getting a + 1!
I don't want to pay over $100 for this person you find at the last minute to take to my wedding that I have never met before.

However I did make an exception for a couple of my 1st cousins who are over 30 and single.  I do know that they aren't dating anyone, but I know they wouldn't bring any random person to my wedding.
 

Maggie0829

chrisig8 said:

I wouldn't include them with a +1  unless they are in a relationship already.  If they are married or engaged and you haven't met their significant other, then yes I would invite them with a + 1.

I have a few friends that have mentioned to me who they are going to invite as their date and I came right out and told them if they aren't in a relationship by the time I send out my invite, they aren't getting a + 1!
I don't want to pay over $100 for this person you find at the last minute to take to my wedding that I have never met before.

However I did make an exception for a couple of my 1st cousins who are over 30 and single.  I do know that they aren't dating anyone, but I know they wouldn't bring any random person to my wedding.
 

At that point it wouldn't be a +1 but the SO would be invited by name.  Also that would include anyone in a relationship, not just for those who are engaged or married.

I am also not a huge fan of giving some people a +1 and not others, especially with the attitude you seem to have about it.  I personally like it when a plus one is given to all singles because some people, regardless of whether or not they know other guests, are just more comfortable bringing someone they know and get a long with well and to me my guests comfort comes first.

kmedeiros89

Totally get what you're saying about how I shouldn't want to choose who people bring to my wedding. Realistically the question of a +1 is more about a particular person. They're family so they certainly wouldn't be alone.. They are not in a relationship and they bring a random "friend" who no one in the family has ever even heard them talk about to events and they never show up again. Alsooo often the people she brings arounds character is slightly questionable. I hate to word it like that because it sounds like I'm a super judgmental person and I really am not I'm just callin it how I see it. I guess maybe I should just suck it up and let that person bring a guest

Maggie0829

kmedeiros89 said:

Totally get what you're saying about how I shouldn't want to choose who people bring to my wedding. Realistically the question of a +1 is more about a particular person. They're family so they certainly wouldn't be alone.. They are not in a relationship and they bring a random "friend" who no one in the family has ever even heard them talk about to events and they never show up again. Alsooo often the people she brings arounds character is slightly questionable. I hate to word it like that because it sounds like I'm a super judgmental person and I really am not I'm just callin it how I see it. I guess maybe I should just suck it up and let that person bring a guest

Yes you should.  You will spend all of two seconds talking to this mystery person by saying a quick "Hello, nice to meet you.  Thank you so much for coming."  Then you are off to talk to other people.

If you or your family do not know the person that she brings then how can you judge that persons character as being questionable?