No reception to now cocktail reception.

jenni5672

Originally it was us and immediate family. Then everyone is saying they want to go to wedding as well.  We are not doing a reception. Neither of our first weddings. Not even sending invitations out. But now the number of people is getting like over 50. So not sure what to do.  And now not even sure where will do ceremony. We were just doing one of the chapels not in a hotel. No idea what to do now. Feb. 12- We are sending invites now. And cocktail reception. Just not sure on any of it yet. And big worry is all the yes we want to go now til time comes and then sorry we can't. So trying to decide on a middle ground.  Headed there in two weeks to scout.

tcnoble

If you didn't send invitations, then there is no event for these people to attend. They're taking a trip to Vegas. 

"Oh you're going to be in Vegas too?? That's great! I hope you have fun. We are excited for our private ceremony. Maybe we will run in to each other!"

ETA you might get lucky and their excitement over Vegas may taper off as they don't receive invites or more information.

hmgiffor

We had lots of people excited and now people are dropping left and right. Jerks..I could have saved a lot on invites lol

hashtaggroomzilla

hmgiffor said:

We had lots of people excited and now people are dropping left and right. Jerks..I could have saved a lot on invites lol

I had people go to the ceremony and bail on the reception...I could have gotten extra bottles of champagne instead of paying for their empty seats. 

wrigleyville

jenni5672 said:

Originally it was us and immediate family. Then everyone is saying they want to go to wedding as well.  We are not doing a reception. Neither of our first weddings. Not even sending invitations out. But now the number of people is getting like over 50. So not sure what to do.  And now not even sure where will do ceremony. We were just doing one of the chapels not in a hotel. No idea what to do now.

A lot of people told us they wanted to go, but we didn't invite them. Don't cave to these people. Just tell them you're having a private wedding with immediately family only and then change the subject.

It's your wedding. You get to decide who you want there. Don't let anyone pressure you into inviting more people.

vegasgroom

How this is an issue unless by "saying they want to go" really means "they asked if they could go and I said yes sure"?  It's pretty much impossible to invite yourself to a destination wedding if you don't know the date, time, location, etc. so just don't give in to the requests.

destinationtake2

tcnoble said:

If you didn't send invitations, then there is no event for these people to attend. They're taking a trip to Vegas. 

"Oh you're going to be in Vegas too?? That's great! I hope you have fun. We are excited for our private ceremony. Maybe we will run in to each other!"

ETA you might get lucky and their excitement over Vegas may taper off as they don't receive invites or more information.

I like this response.

There is no way that people should be able to force you into something that you didn't plan or want. If you want a private ceremony with immediate family, that is what you should have. You could end up spending money that you did not plan or need to spend and you've sacrificed the wedding you really wanted. All for people who were rude enough to invite themselves.

But I hope this does not *really* happen to you if you aren't sending invites. GL

jenni5672

Well we had to adjust. Yes on invites. Doing cocktail reception. Just not sure where or what. Headed there in two weeks to scout. 

[Deleted User]

We have also had the problem of people inviting themselves. It is definitely possible and quite annoying. We went from a formal reception to cocktail reception to account for the unexpected number of guests.  

jenni5672

Where did you do the cocktail reception?

[Deleted User]

In suite at Caesars

jenni5672

How many guests? We are looking at 40-60.

[Deleted User]

Pretty much the same. Probably 50ish.

wrigleyville

Learn to say no to people when they invite themselves. Problem solved.

They aren't paying for the reception; you are. Don't let them wreck your budget. Stay firm. Say no.