My FI's family is in Taiwan, but I'd like to involve my future
mother-in-law (who is a very wonderful lady) in the process (also my
future father-in-law, but this mostly applies to the MIL b/c I doubt
he'd be much interested in dresses, etc). I know already that their
family prefers a western-style wedding, with a second banquet-style
reception in Taiwan for the family members who can't make it to the US.
But how much of my planning is it okay to share with her? Is it okay to
share wedding dress ideas with her, or is that something the family of
the groom isn't supposed to see beforehand? The FI and I are planning
the wedding ourselves, since we don't want to be a burden on our
families. His family is very casual family as a whole, and his parents lived in the US for a long time (went to school here, got jobs, met while working, had kids, and lived here for a few years before returning to Taiwan), but I'd like them--and any extended family who can attend, including hopefully his grandparents--to be comfortable, and I don't want to accidentally do anything completely taboo.
I'm probably worrying to much about it, but complicating
things is that we've only met once in person, though it was for 10
days, and spoken in person a few times online. Time zones and distance
make everything that much harder.
On a side note, does anyone else have trouble figuring out how to talk with the future in-laws half a world away? They're wonderful people and I can't wait to call them officially family... So how do you go about bonding with a new family you only get to see once a year?