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samm1225

I got engaged a couple of years before I found you wonderful knotties, so unfortunately I missed out on the advice to wait on a bridal party. My conundrum is at that time I had a really close guy friend, and I can't remember if I actually asked him to stand up as a bridesman or if all parties just assumed that would be the case. We're now 5 months out and neither of us have brought it up since we aren't as close/don't talk as much anymore. Should I bring it up? Or just ride it out and hope for the best? We would absolutely help each other bury a body at 3 am still, but we're not the first person the other would call anymore. Advice?

ShesSoCold

samm1225 said:

I got engaged a couple of years before I found you wonderful knotties, so unfortunately I missed out on the advice to wait on a bridal party. My conundrum is at that time I had a really close guy friend, and I can't remember if I actually asked him to stand up as a bridesman or if all parties just assumed that would be the case. We're now 5 months out and neither of us have brought it up since we aren't as close/don't talk as much anymore. Should I bring it up? Or just ride it out and hope for the best? We would absolutely help each other bury a body at 3 am still, but we're not the first person the other would call anymore. Advice?

Do you want him in tour bridal party or not? 

If not, say nothing. If so, call him, laugh and say, " shit, it's been so long that I don't remember, did we talk about you standing up in my wedding?". 

redoryx

ShesSoCold said:

samm1225 said:

I got engaged a couple of years before I found you wonderful knotties, so unfortunately I missed out on the advice to wait on a bridal party. My conundrum is at that time I had a really close guy friend, and I can't remember if I actually asked him to stand up as a bridesman or if all parties just assumed that would be the case. We're now 5 months out and neither of us have brought it up since we aren't as close/don't talk as much anymore. Should I bring it up? Or just ride it out and hope for the best? We would absolutely help each other bury a body at 3 am still, but we're not the first person the other would call anymore. Advice?

Do you want him in tour bridal party or not? 

If not, say nothing. If so, call him, laugh and say, " shit, it's been so long that I don't remember, did we talk about you standing up in my wedding?". 

Just make sure you have a plan if he says Yes and is planning on it. 

samm1225

Thanks ladies. I just really wanted to make sure whichever way I went that I haven't "unasked" him by lack of information since I can't remember whether or not I did. I would still love to have him up there with me. Guess I'll just call him and see if he's still planning on it.