When do I send out my invites?

kmedeiros89

I don't have any guests coming from out of state so when is the appropriate time to send out my invites? I want to make sure I give enough time for people to respond so I can get my final count in on time to the venue.

mlg78

8 weeks before your wedding date.

fwtx5815

I would mail them out 8 weeks before the wedding, and set the RSVP deadline no sooner than 4 weeks before the wedding. 

Maggie0829

No matter if you had out of town guests are not, invites are sent out anywhere from 6-8 weeks prior to your wedding date.

When is your final headcount due to your venue?  Whatever that date is add 5-7 days and that should be your RSVP date.

AJh1021

I have always been told that invitations should be sent out 6-8 weeks prior to your RSVP date, which should be 2 weeks before you want your final count. For instance, I am getting married June 20, so my invitations should be sent out by April 18 with an RSVP date of May 30, because I am turning in my final count on June 13 (a week before the wedding). Hope that makes sense!

southernbelle0915

AJh1021 said:

I have always been told that invitations should be sent out 6-8 weeks prior to your RSVP date, which should be 2 weeks before you want your final count. For instance, I am getting married June 20, so my invitations should be sent out by April 18 with an RSVP date of May 30, because I am turning in my final count on June 13 (a week before the wedding). Hope that makes sense!

Nope - it's 6-8 weeks before the wedding date itself. 

Then the RSVP date should be no more than a week before you need a final headcount. Reasonable caterers don't need a final headcount until 1-2 weeks before the wedding. So usually the RSVP date is 2-3 weeks prior to the event. It shouldn't be any more than 4 weeks before the event.

AJh1021

I'm just going by what my venue gave me. They want my final count a week before the wedding. With the RSVP date being 2 weeks prior to that, it gives me ample time to contact anyone who may not have sent their RSVP. I would hate to pay for dinners that no one will eat! By all means, do what you feel is best for your situation. @southernbelle0915 is probably correct with her reply, but I'm a big worrier, so I'm all for giving myself plenty of time to get everything worked out before my big day!

KatWAG

AJh1021 said:

I'm just going by what my venue gave me. They want my final count a week before the wedding. With the RSVP date being 2 weeks prior to that, it gives me ample time to contact anyone who may not have sent their RSVP. I would hate to pay for dinners that no one will eat! By all means, do what you feel is best for your situation. @southernbelle0915 is probably correct with her reply, but I'm a big worrier, so I'm all for giving myself plenty of time to get everything worked out before my big day!

Why do you need 2 full weeks to contact the hand full of people who forget to RSVP? It takes 2-3 days max.

Maggie0829

KatWAG said:

AJh1021 said:

I'm just going by what my venue gave me. They want my final count a week before the wedding. With the RSVP date being 2 weeks prior to that, it gives me ample time to contact anyone who may not have sent their RSVP. I would hate to pay for dinners that no one will eat! By all means, do what you feel is best for your situation. @southernbelle0915 is probably correct with her reply, but I'm a big worrier, so I'm all for giving myself plenty of time to get everything worked out before my big day!

Why do you need 2 full weeks to contact the hand full of people who forget to RSVP? It takes 2-3 days max.

Seriously.  Phone calls do not take that long.  You call the person and say "hey just wondering if you are coming or not?"  And if you leave a voice mail you say "Hey just wondering if you are coming or not?  Could you let me know by X day.  If I don't hear from you by then I will have to mark you down as a decline.  Thanks!"

AJh1021

okay girls, it's my day.. I'll do it how I want. I was just giving a suggestion to another poster. no need to bash the way I'm planning MY day!

southernbelle0915

AJh1021 said:

okay girls, it's my day.. I'll do it how I want. I was just giving a suggestion to another poster. no need to bash the way I'm planning MY day!

Have you ever seen Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory? Do you remember a little girl named Veruca Salt?

Maggie0829

AJh1021 said:

okay girls, it's my day.. I'll do it how I want. I was just giving a suggestion to another poster. no need to bash the way I'm planning MY day!

So are you marrying yourself?

brittanykaylachandler

We're mailing ours out the first week of March (8 weeks before) and asking for RSVPs by March 23rd. This will give me a week to call anyone who hasn't done their RSVP. Due to my busy schedule I want several days to follow up. My venue needs to know 2-3 weeks before the date, and my caterer needs to know a week before. Our wedding is May 1st.