What do you *reeallyy* need to include with an invitation?

Knottie31321366

In this day and age, when everyone has GPS on their phones, and has access to a computer,  is it really necessary to include a directions card, as well as an RSVP card?

Is it bad etiquette, or is it acceptable just to say "RSVP on our wedding website"

 

KatWAG

You do not need to include a directions insert. And you can have people RSVP to a website but if you do that I would automatically consider your wedding casual.

mikenberger

Knottie31321366 said:

In this day and age, when everyone has GPS on their phones, and has access to a computer,  is it really necessary to include a directions card, as well as an RSVP card?

Is it bad etiquette, or is it acceptable just to say "RSVP on our wedding website"

 

What about your older guests that don't use the computer as easily as the younger ones? And there are some younger ones that hate technology as much as the older ones. Personally, I would forget to RSVP if I had to do it from a website. Far easier to get the RSVP postcard in the invite suite, marked it off and send it back. 

lyndausvi

The invitation should have:

Host name(s)

Guest of Honor name(s)

Date

Time

Location

Everything else are extras to help the guests and or you, but are not requirements.  

Back in the day people would RSVP on their own stationary.  RSVP cards were not done and still considered by some to be in poor form.   They are used to make the hosts lives a little easier, but when one is invited somewhere the polite thing to do is response by either accepting or declining the request.   

 For example, if your GF text you " want to met up for drinks tonight?".   You don't just not respond.  You text/call back a response to the question.

That all said, it is easier for most hosts to offer ways to RSVP.   Most people send out cards to be returned so they have something physical to check off a list.  Others don't mind getting phone calls, text or emails.    I would have gone crazy getting 174 phone calls or text messages.   I have a lot of email that end up in Junk mail.  Or what happens often is people spell my name wrong, so they THINK they RSVP'd, but actually the person who has my similar name with a different spelling is actually getting the RSVP.  

We didn't put a direction card, but we did put in a FAQ card, RSVP and room block information.   You would be surprised how many people do NOT go websites.

MobKaz

Knottie31321366 said:

In this day and age, when everyone has GPS on their phones, and has access to a computer,  is it really necessary to include a directions card, as well as an RSVP card?

Is it bad etiquette, or is it acceptable just to say "RSVP on our wedding website"

 

You would still need at least one insert card with the details of your wedding website. You can't/shouldn't add any line about your RSVP as part of your main invitation.

pennydl

If you include your wedding website on your STD's, should you include it again on the invites?

dcbride86

pennydl said:

If you include your wedding website on your STD's, should you include it again on the invites?

I would (and did).  People may not still have your STDs.  Plus I sent several people invites that never got STDs.  I think it's best to include it in your invites, especially if you aren't putting directions and info like that on it

Jen4948

pennydl said:

If you include your wedding website on your STD's, should you include it again on the invites?

If you're inviting people you didn't send STDs to and they need information on your website, yes.

LtPowers

MobKaz said:

You would still need at least one insert card with the details of your wedding website. You can't/shouldn't add any line about your RSVP as part of your main invitation.

This is not strictly true. The invitation is allowed to include a single statement, "R.S.V.P.", in the lower-left corner. All caps, with periods. It's formal etiquette's one concession to the problem of invitees not responding.

Powers  &8^]