Hey Ladies,
I got married on Saturday the 1st - it was perfect - the best day of my life, by far! Everything went off without a hitch, and I'm so excited to be heading to St. Lucia with my husband soon!
Aside from that, I wanted to share some of my thoughts because I think it's really good for soon-to-be brides to know these things now. I was not a "bridezilla" by any means, but I did have my moments where I thought my bridesmaids weren't "perfect," which is just silly. I really didn't think that way most of the time, but like I said, I definitely had these moments. I think every bride is entitled to a few stress-related freak-outs. It's natural. Doing it all of the time isn't okay, but I understand the random periods of insanity.
Anyways, getting back on track, there was so much I learned from the week of my wedding and my wedding day, that I wish I knew before, but most importantly, it was this:
The most important thing I wanted to stress was about bridesmaids and the wedding party as a whole. When people on here say, "no one is as excited about your wedding as you are," that's the total truth, but I think that's only true up until your wedding weekend - at least with my wedding party it was this way. I can't say enough about how AMAZING my bridesmaids and my husband's groomsmen were! They were always asking us what we needed, what they could do to help us, etc, and on my wedding day, my girls were the very BEST! I could not have made it through the morning without them, and I really felt that they were right there with me - as excited as I was. I know it's hard to understand that people have other things going on, responsibilities, etc., but just know that most of the time, your friends and family are going to be there for you on your big day. Maybe people won't show your excitement until that special day, but that's OKAY. I realized that all I needed were my girls to be there helping me to breathe, helping with my train, and all the little things that day. I didn't need them to fall all over my wedding a year in advance.
Hindsight is always 20/20, but I wanted to send this message out to those who are feeling "jilted" by your bridesmaids or whomever. On your day, it will be about YOU, and people will be excited for you. They will be helpful. They will be falling all over you. And really, if they're there to help make your day special, then what else do you really need?! I didn't need to worry about anything related to my bridesmaids, yet at times, I did. The stress level - whether big or small - is not worth it.
Going through my amazing wedding day made me realize how lucky I am to have the friends I have. I keep laughing at the fact that at one point in time, my friend was being (in my mind) so "snotty" that I re-evaluated having her in my wedding. Turns out, she was the most wonderful, complimentary, helpful, happy bridesmaid by my side. What a fool I would have been! The point is, don't ruin friendships, get in fights, or stress out over people's "lack of interest." Know that true friends will be there for you on your day, and that's what REALLY matters.
Aside from the serious-talk, my wedding day was spectacular, and I miss it so much already! I am so thrilled to be married to my best friend, and I am happy to say that my dream wedding came true.
Hope this helps some of you - this is real! 