Hi there. I have 1 bridesmaid that plans to get pregnant in the next few months and will be around 6 months in at my wedding. Another girl just told me that she is 12 weeks, which will mean she will have a 3 month old.
We were not having any children at the wedding other than 2 that will be in the wedding and are older. I have selfish reasons to worry about this of course. As I don't want the first friend to bail last minute- which is a totally valid concern. Also, she will be 6 months pregnant.
I don't think anyone would want to leave their 3 month old at home, wedding is 2 hours out of town. I'm doing DIY with a lot of things for my wedding. And although I don't want to rely on any of my girls, it would be nice to be able to ask for help. But I just don't think these 2 will be up for any bridal party help. And having to nurse etc the day of and days before.
Should I just come clean with both and tell them my concerns? I don't want to sound selfish, but I want to make sure we won't have crazy changes last minute. And that I have a bit of support. DIY will be stressful and I would like everyone to calm me down when necessary.
Don't get me wrong, I love kids, babies etc. I was a nanny and can't wait to have kids. But if I put myself into that situation, I would probably think twice about accepting a bridesmaid role.
Any advice or tips is very helpful. Thanks!