Shower Thank You

dcbride86

My aunt and cousin (my MOH) are hosting a shower for me next month.  I want to get them a gift, but my aunt especially is the type to almost side-eye a gift from her niece.  I was thinking instead of a formal gift (i.e., jewelry, or something tangible they get at the shower) to send them each a nice, big edible arrangement that will arrive when they fly back home.  And of course, I will give them each a card at the shower.  Does that sound sufficient?  I don't want to seem ungrateful, but I also don't want to make my aunt feel awkward by her much younger (and poorer) niece giving her a formal and wrapped gift

mlg78

Edible Arrangements would be a great gift!

dcbride86

mlg78 said:

Edible Arrangements would be a great gift!

Thank you!  I didn't know if the gift should be tangible and something they would get at the shower, but like I said, I'm worried my aunt would side-eye that.  I'm probably the poorest and least fancy one in the family, and sometimes the others question my attempts to be grateful because they know I'm on a government entry level salary.

mlg78

Edible Arrangements aren't cheap...I think they're nice but very overpriced...so while you've made "poor" comments a couple of times, are you sure you can afford it?  I'm a former government employee...

lmcooper86

My FSIL, a friend of ours and the friend's mother are hosting a shower for me on Saturday; I know FMIL is also involved, but is more of a "silent partner". Since there are 4 hosts, and buying gifts for the 2 older hosts is tough, I am picking up flowers for all of them on Saturday morning as a thank you. I was originally thinking about having flowers delivered the following day, but none of them work regular hours and I would hate to have flowers sitting outside their homes or offices if they aren't there!

dcbride86

mlg78 said:

Edible Arrangements aren't cheap...I think they're nice but very overpriced...so while you've made "poor" comments a couple of times, are you sure you can afford it?  I'm a former government employee...

Yeah I can afford it.  I've sent them a few times before and have online coupons.  It's certainly not something I send often, but I can afford to give them each a $60ish thank you

RebeccaFlower

I would probably just send flowers and a heartfelt thank you note. 

novella1186

I think that sounds like a nice idea. You don't HAVE to give them a wrapped gift. Any show of appreciation, I think, is appropriate. And sometimes edible gifts are the best! 

WhatawagSBNy

I really think that unless you are rich, that is a lot to spend on a gift to thank them for giving you a gift.

But definitely a nice gift. I would be thrilled if a tray of baklava or a pound of fudge appeared at my door right now.

dcbride86

WhatawagSBNy said:

I really think that unless you are rich, that is a lot to spend on a gift to thank them for giving you a gift. But definitely a nice gift. I would be thrilled if a tray of baklava or a pound of fudge appeared at my door right now.

I agree with you that it's a lot, but I think this shower is going to be rather extravegant and I feel bad sending them just a card or something for giving me such a luxurious shower.  It's in a private room of a fancy restaurant and will have food stations and a mimosa/bellini bar.  It's so nice of them, really, so I want to send them a nice thank you

WhatawagSBNy

Go for it!

csuave

I think mailing a food gift is a super idea, and edible arrangements are great. 

I did something similar and sent Cheryl's cookies after my shower.  This made it easier to include my mom and little niece who helped in their own ways but weren't listed as hosts.  Here's an example of a cute $10 (shipping included) gift:    http://www.cheryls.com/love-bug-cookie-sampler-cco-vd15-140301?searchKeywords=9.99

SP29

I think something like an Edible Arrangement delivered to their home when they return is a great idea. Shows you are thinking of them and thankful.