Attire

love1229

Hi, I'm hoping someone can give me insight on this...I'm getting married at a private country club that has a requirement for dress, ie men must wear collared shirts and jackets are preferred. I do not want to offend anyone because Im aware you can't tell people what to wear. I would hope men would show up in a collared shirt...thoughts please?? Word of mouth may be ok but again I don't want people to feel like I'm dictating their attire to my wedding. Thanks!!!!

lyndausvi

In this case you can mention on a FAQ card and/or website the venues dress requirements

I say both because you would be surprised how many people do not look at websites.

love1229

Thanks!!! I was thinking of including a card with the invites that has the hotel info and on the back, nicely worded info about the venue if that won't be an etiquette breach.

NYCMercedes

On your info card, say, "The Blank CC requires all gentlement to wear jackets."

levioosa

If it is required by the venue, it is not against etiquette to mention a dress code.  It's one of the only times it's appropriate to mention attire (along with Black Tie).  

love1229

Thanks everyone!!!

marie2785

This may not be the case for you, but worth checking: some venues drop the dress code for private events. My venue also has a jackets/collared shirt and no jeans dress code, but made it very clear when we met that they do not enforce it for private events (in fact, its in the contract). Granted, I think most men and women will show up dressed to that level anyways since it's a country club, but it got me out of having to add an extra insert to the card.

southernbelle0915

Yup, it's fine to put it in an insert because its required by the venue (not just your preference).

I would ask the venue coordinator if they have wording they normally use. You could then say on your invite insert: "The venue does have attire requirements. From their website: 'men must wear collared shirts.......'"

kmmssg

lyndausvi said:

In this case you can mention on a FAQ card and/or website the venues dress requirements

I say both because you would be surprised how many people do not look at websites.

Yep, I am one of those who never looks at wedding websites.  I have all the info on the invitation and googled to find out where you are registered so I figure I am good to go.