Help!

Knottie81237512

To start off, my father passed away in '09 so the talk about who is walking me down the aisle has come up numerous times. Now my grandfather (my father's father) decided he wanted to start helping with the wedding which is great but I think the only reason he is trying to help is to walk me down the aisle. Now the problem is- I am not close to him. Barely know him. So I don't know if I want him to walk me down the aisle.. I would rather have one of my brothers or my nephew that I raised to walk me down the aisle. So basically I need opinions on what y'all think I should do.. and how to tell my grandfather he isn't the person I see walking me down the aisle.

larrygaga

I would casually bring it up. Talk about a tentative ceremony plan including order of wedding party. Act like you just want to bounce ideas off him or something. See what his reaction is. Expect him to be really upset and possibly stop helping you. Is there another way you can include him?

Don't let him bully you!

ShesSoCold

Knottie81237512 said:

To start off, my father passed away in '09 so the talk about who is walking me down the aisle has come up numerous times. Now my grandfather (my father's father) decided he wanted to start helping with the wedding which is great but I think the only reason he is trying to help is to walk me down the aisle. Now the problem is- I am not close to him. Barely know him. So I don't know if I want him to walk me down the aisle.. I would rather have one of my brothers or my nephew that I raised to walk me down the aisle. So basically I need opinions on what y'all think I should do.. and how to tell my grandfather he isn't the person I see walking me down the aisle.

STUCK

Do whatever you want to do. There is no wrong answer here. Walk alone, walk with your brother, walk with your nephew, whatever. Just don't say anything about it to Grandpa at all.

climbingsingle

Don't bring it up to your grandfather at all. After that, it's really up to you who to choose.

dolewhipper

I wouldn't say anything until you absolutely know WHO you want to walk you down the aisle and that person knows and agrees. 

I was very close to my father and he passed in '12. I knew I wanted my sister to walk me down. When my step dad would ask about it prior to me asking my sister, I just would say, "Oh, I don't know. I'm so focused on X right now. Hows the bean dip?" By the time he brought it up again, I had already asked my sister and she agreed. So I told him. I think he was a little hurt, but he understood.

For all you know maybe he just wants to help, to help. Don't look too far into this, just take it as him being good to you.