Double Wedding

drunkenwitch

My brain seriously can not wrap around how anyone would think this okay, or acceptable or who the fuck would the brass ones top even ask it???!!

You are not being a Bridezilla for wanting only you and your FI to get married at YOUR wedding, that you planned and that you are paying for.

As PPs pointed out, we always say around here "you get one day", and I will say that to you.  You get one day, you get to tell them "no, you will not be renewing vows at my wedding."

flantastic

I can't believe you haven't laughed in her face. That's what I would do, and then say "Hell to the no." At least with the vow renewal nonsense.

Lisa had good words for the dress/hair/makeup. Dress should be in her budget and hair/makeup optional (unless you are paying) anyway. If you tell her she doesn't need to do professional hair and makeup (no one will be seeing her renew her vows that day, so she shouldn't need to worry about whether DIY hair and makeup will stand up to all the attention she won't be getting), and she still brings up the dress, "Seriously?" + laugh + "hell to the no" is again an appropriate response.

charcoalandblush

larrygaga said:

adk19 I loved that show, why was it cancelled!!!!!!

Princess beyonce 4eva

Princess Beyonce is my car's name

creato2304

Thanks ladies! I am putting my foot down and just saying NO! No more reasoning...just say NO!

arrippa

I am not sure why you haven't just stopped the this train of bad ideas by saying "no" already. I would have laid down the "oh hell no" the minute someone asked me to do this. Just do it.

blabla89

creato2304 said:

Thanks ladies! I am putting my foot down and just saying NO! No more reasoning...just say NO!

Yep. We had to do that with my crazy AWing FSIL because sometimes that's all you can do.

Just say no and if she throws a tantrum, don't engage. She'll make herself look bad.

fyrchk

I've been to weddings where the officiant said something like, "the bride and groom invite those of you who would like to renew your vows to take each other's hands and remember the day you said your vows as they say theirs." Or something along those lines. Then you can be all, "YAY! WE DID YOUR VOW RENEWAL!!!" ha

fyrchk

And then ask them to kick in some money to pay the officiant.

ETA: Just read they are in the wedding party. Disregard. This was usually for the people in the congregation. Maybe change it to, "Gaze lovingly at each other from afar."

Chipmunk415

Regarding the argument of "you tossed my broken, moldy NuWave oven, therefore you owe me all these things'...umm no. What's the price of that broken model? I'd consider the possibility of writing a check for that price, if only to prevent her from using that argument any further.

Of course, Evil Chipmunk is rattling the bars of her cage, demanding she be allowed to attend with her favorite blow dart gun. You know, the one loaded with the darts that keep you standing in place without making comments/interrupting/throwing a tantrum, in case they try to interrupt your ceremony, without risk of them stealing attention by fainting or falling.

Evil Chipmunk also suggests, if this continues, you give the pastor a heads up, and the photographer, in case sister tries to end run around you and convince both parties that you ok'ed this. Pastor, should he be super awesome, will authoritatively shut that down before it can start, and photographer will be on alert to not feed the beastly behavior by taking photos of sister and her husband posing like it is their vow renewal.