Hi ladies!
So, the idea to have a family member was originally my idea, but I wanted his grandfather to do it because I think he has a wonderfully outgoing personality and a great speaker. My fiance is adopted and this is his biological grandfather i was referring to. He though his mother would be uncomfortable with that, which I was thinking too and completely understand. I started looking into officiants and started emailing with a lady I was really liking. Fiance then suggested asking his mom to do it. I was hesitant to ask her just because I dont see the outgoing/ easy speaking personality that originally drew me to his grandfather, in his mom. He seems really into the idea so i decided to go along with it. I told the lady i had been emailing with that we were going to ask his mother to officiate. He asked, she seemed hesitant and wanted time to think about it. That right away made me think she didnt want to, but a few weeks later she told him that she would do it. When I told the officiant i had been emailing with that we were going to have his mom do it, it brought some concerns. She said it is not as easy to become (legally) ordained in Las Vegas as it is every where else, she pointed out that mothers have a way of being emotional during weddings and if she were to officiate her daughters' weddings, she would be crying and unable to get anything out. She also said she can do the paper work for a fee that wasnt much different from the fee of doing the wedding. Which makes me think we might be getting in over our heads if most of it is paperwork, we probably wont know what we are doing. So, not only am i worried that she might have trouble getting ordained legally, or think she is but it not actually be legal. She might start crying while doing our ceremony, or we wont know what we are doing with the paperwork and mess something up and not be legally married. Now I'm also changing my mind because I'm worried it wont feel as "real" as having a hired officiant. Our ceremony is already being kept small (we are going to vegas and only taking a few friends and family with us) and we arent going to a normal venue (just the back yard of the mansion sized villa home we are renting). I have already tried talking with my fiance but he has an argument for every reason i dont want this. Not to mention if i am able to convince him that we should hire a professional, I have NO IDEA how to tell his mom.
So, finally, my question : does any one else have any idea on how i can approach this?