My fiancé (J) and his birth father reconnected before his currently deployment. He is getting back soon (and we will be getting married- YAY!), but when I was finalizing all the plans with his birth father I couldn't help, but be a little offended when he brought up a wedding gift, entirely focused just on a gift for J. It's great if he wants to get him a gift, but personally that sounds more of a bachelor gift. I have to let a lot roll off my shoulder because it was clear when we first met him and after talking to him a lot about the wedding while J has been gone, he doesn't hide not fully recognizing me as his future wife very well. From my side of things, we have never shown up to a wedding only honoring one person, when the entire ceremony is a celebration of the two. We are having an intimate ceremony and never went into it looking for any gifts, but still thought this was a tad rude. Idk, just wondering if this has happened to anyone else and wondering how it went for you.