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Gifts for readers?

FI and I are having 2 readers for our weddings - should we buy them gifts as well?  I literally just thought of this!  I have almost all of BM gifts purchased, as well as gifts for both moms, but I hadn't thought of reader gifts.  Is that a thing?

Re: Gifts for readers?

  • I would get them something.  Maybe a card thanking them so much for their involvement and a nice gift card to a restaurant?

    dcbride86
  • Okay, thanks!  I was definitely going to get them a card, I just didn't know if gifts were appropriate.  THANK GOD for you guys!!!!!!!!!!!!  Sometimes I hate being the first of my friends to get married.  I feel so stupid sometimes!
  • marie2785marie2785 member
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    edited February 2015
    Being a reader is almost no work as long as people are ok with public speaking...you just walk up and read, so I don't think it requires a gift (unlike being a BM which can cost a few hundred $$ in dress and other fees). A heartfelt thank you note post-ceremony is always appreciated though!
  • We did  "thanks for being a part of our wedding" gifts, which we gave out at our rehearsal dinner. It was the parents, immediate families, and the bridal party; our readers fit into the "immediate family" category. When we went through the list of who we were getting gifts for, it made sense to just do everyone there. Like, my brother walked me down the aisle, but wasn't a part of the bridal party. He still got a gift. Or my aunt was a reader, but really her and her husband have just been so supportive so I got them both a gift instead of just her; her kids/my cousins didn't actually have any official roles, but they were definitely VIPs and came in my limo with all of us before the wedding, so I got them a little something as well. 

    (I just realized I said immediate family and started listing aunts, uncles and cousins. There is one family of 4 that essentially "adopted" my family years ago after my father died, so I consider them as close as my brother, etc.). 
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  • edited February 2015
    Thank you notes for sure. 
    How about a corsage to wear during the event? 
    Edit: or boutineer if your reader is male. 
    Also: I don't have the slightest clue how to spell boutineer. Spell check not helping. 
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  • marie2785 said:
    Being a reader is almost no work as long as people are ok with public speaking...you just walk up and read, so I don't think it requires a gift (unlike being a BM which can cost a few hundred $$ in dress and other fees). A heartfelt thank you note post-ceremony is always appreciated though!
    I don't know, I asked my cousin to sing at our ceremony and we gave her (along with a thank you note) a gift card to her local spa.  

    I think it's a nice gesture.
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  • I thought this thread was about gifts to give people who enjoy reading books and I got really excited. Dang it. 

    I agree with PPs, a nice thank-you note should suffice. 
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  • Thank you notes for sure. 
    How about a corsage to wear during the event? 
    Edit: or boutineer if your reader is male. 
    Also: I don't have the slightest clue how to spell boutineer. Spell check not helping. 
    This is a lovely idea!  Thank you!
  • I got them something small and courage/boutonniere on the wedding day.
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  • We have 3 readers, all female. We ordered them each a corsage and I am going to get them each a gift. I know 2 have Pandora bracelets so I was thinking a bead and for my cousin, maybe a gift card to somewhere she can go with her husband.
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  • Our reader (my brother) got a bout and a bottle of rum, as well as letter from me thanking him for being awesome.
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  • We gave our readers corsages and small gifts with heartfelt notes at the rehearsal dinner since they were very close friends of ours. 
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    edited February 2015
    I got a vanilla-scented (so bland!) lotion and cheap manicure set for being a reader in one cousin's wedding.  My sister got the same but in pomegranate, so I was jealous of her getting a more interesting scent (and frankly wondered if it was because I'm white and she's brown, but that's neither here nor there).  I use neither lotion nor fingernail polish.

    ETA: To clarify, it seemed to me that the logic behind the scent decision was white cousin gets vanilla.  That could just be in my head, but that was the sense I got at the time. 



  • The readers should still come and rehearse which means they're taking time out to attend the rehearsal and RD. We gave our readers small gifts and corsages.
  • dcbride86 said:
    Thank you notes for sure. 
    How about a corsage to wear during the event? 
    Edit: or boutineer if your reader is male. 
    Also: I don't have the slightest clue how to spell boutineer. Spell check not helping. 
    This is a lovely idea!  Thank you!
    This is what my daughter did as well.  She had corsages for the two women who read at her ceremony.  They were listed in the wedding program.  They were invited to the rehearsal dinner (along with their SO/family).  They were sent a card with a note of appreciation.
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