bridal shower guest list

tquire

I am trying to come up with a guest list for my bridal shower. I know it is meant to be for close female friends/family and not every female guest of the wedding. I'm having trouble with a few groups.
*Do I invite my FI's close female friends?
*Is it appropriate to invite my friends mom's who basically are mothers to me?
*is it appropriate to invite out of state people even if I know they won't come? ( don't want to seem like I'm gift grabbing but don't want to leave out. 1is FI sis/2 are my aunts)
* should friends of the famply go on the list?
any advice is appreciated! Thanks!

mikenberger

You can invite anybody that is already invited to the wedding. Speak to your hosts, see how many people they are willing to host. Hopefully they have a budget and have done some research on costs per person and will have a number for you.

Then you can invite the appropriate # of people. But like I said, you can invite anybody who is invited to the wedding. 

You can invite people from out of state as well. 

flantastic

tquire said:

I am trying to come up with a guest list for my bridal shower. I know it is meant to be for close female friends/family and not every female guest of the wedding. I'm having trouble with a few groups.

*Do I invite my FI's close female friends?

*Is it appropriate to invite my friends mom's who basically are mothers to me?

*is it appropriate to invite out of state people even if I know they won't come? ( don't want to seem like I'm gift grabbing but don't want to leave out. 1is FI sis/2 are my aunts)

* should friends of the famply go on the list? any advice is appreciated! Thanks!

Once you see how many people the host can afford to host, pick whoever you want from the wedding guest list. If you don't care about having your FI's close friends there, no need.

If I don't attend a shower, I won't send a gift, so out of state invites aren't really a gift grab.

MairePoppy

Once you have a number from the shower host, make a list of your closest family members and friends. The MOB, MOG and grandmothers are usually included. Yes, it's appropriate to invite your friends' moms, who are like mothers to you. They would probably be disappointed if you didn't invite them. You may include out of state family members if you're very close to them. I wouldn't invite Fi's close female friends to the shower, unless they are women that you would hang with on your own. Your host may send an invitation to out of state wedding guests.

tcnoble

Ditto PPs on conferring with your host.

The hosts of my shower had a set budget and that meant keeping it less than 20 guests total. I couldn't invite out of town guests as a courtesy because if they did decide to come, my host couldn't host them. Definitely want to avoid putting anyone in a situation where they are uncomfortable. 

charcoalandblush

My host told me up to 75, which seemed insane to me. I gave her a list of 34. We're expecting more like 25-30.

I included my FMIL and FSIL (who live out of state) and everyone else was local - aunts, cousins, my friends, and my mom's friends.