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My (I guess now former) friend blocked me on Facebook.

I had posted about all this nonsense back in November: http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1045190/i-ended-two-friendships-recently-long/p1

Basically Laney and Karen caused mucho drama around my wedding. Laney had also rented a house for the weekend of my wedding with my MOH, Cathy, and two other friends, Simone and Kiera. The ladies all booked the house way in advance. Laney had said she didn't want in. Then, two weeks before the wedding, Laney called my MOH and begged for her and her boyfriend to be able to stay at the house. The ladies then shuffled things around and told Laney they'd all split beds so that Laney and her boyfriend could have one of the rooms. 

When Laney arrived at the house Friday night with her boyfriend, she flipped out. Apparently the room she was staying in had a queen size pull out couch instead of an actual bed. And when I say flipped out, I'm not exaggerating. MOH and I were at the rehearsal, but the rest of the ladies recounted what had happened. Laney actually started CRYING and said she would just sleep in her car. Why someone would have a meltdown over this is beyond me. Unfortunately Laney has been known to fly off the handle in certain situations. I honestly probably should have phased her out years ago because of past things she'd done. But I always wanted to believe the best in her, you know? For as many times as she acted like as ass, we had just as many fun, happy times. 

Anyway, these dramatics went on for hours. Simone and Cathy offered to give up their room (they were sharing a bed so that Laney and her boyfriend would have their own room) but that still didn't please her. Laney fought with everyone, including her boyfriend. She locked herself in her room and wouldn't come out for the rest of the night. 

She caused more stupid drama the next day while everyone was getting ready for the wedding. It's too much to type out, but at this point, everyone that was sharing the house was pretty much done with her. 

Then she arrived at the wedding and proceeded to talk shit about Cathy with other troublemaker Karen. That's what the above post from November was about. 

I never had it out with Laney, but after I found out about all of this, I was just so disgusted. I had texted her back in October (before I knew what went down) to hang out, and she said no. That was the last I heard from her. I was assuming that eventually we'd bump into each other and we'd maybe discuss is then. I thought maybe she'd even reach other to me. But neither has happened. I certainly wasn't going to seek her out though, you know?

Well, last night I got a text from my MOH. Apparently Laney deleted all of us and blocked us! Which, OK, you don't want to be friends anymore and the feeling is mutual. But really - these are the actions of a 35 year old woman??? It's just so bizarre. 

But I feel like I have the closure I needed with Laney now. It's over and done, and I'm honestly happy to not have someone like that in my life. Life is too short to spend it on people like that. 
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    What a nutcase. She should hang out with my sister. 

    And yeah, you should feel REALLY good to have that nonsense out of your life. Congrats on that! You seem so grounded and level-headed, I can't imagine you being friends with someone that nuts. 
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    maeday2 said:
    She probably kicked you out of her Myspace top 8, too. That means it's OVER. 

    I would be happy to avoid the confrontation and that she exited stage left all on her own. 
    Hahahaha! Right??? 

    I was just texting my H about this and apparently she blocked him too. 

    Laney is totally one of those girls you meet in your early 20s that you go out with all the time. She was always up for anything. We spent many a weekend night drinking and dancing. But there was always drama swirling around her. I put up with it back then, but the older I get, the less tolerance I have for that. 
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    glad you got that crazy out of your life. 
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    I'm sorry this friendship fell through, but then again, it's for the best- so what's there really to be sorry about?
    I had a friend who was often the same way. Could be very fun, could be a very good friend, but damned if she wasn't a manipulative and selfish bitch too.  I considered my attendance at her wedding our "last hurrah," and when I had to tell her she wasn't invited to mine, that finally signaled to her the end of our friendship.

    No one needs drama. Clean house. Life is happier without drama queens dragging things down! 
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    She kind of sounds like Ashley, from the Bachelor. Should we all pop champagne that she's gone? 
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    Wow, what a crazy bitch! I hope the door didn't hit her too hard on her way out. You are better off NOT having her in your life!

    I had a similar thing happen a few years ago. Really good friend, like in the running for a best man good friend. We were in town and were going to get dinner. Last minute he made a really lame excuse to bail on dinner. I knew it was a lie because I knew the situation. He basically said he had no money, but he had just gotten an insurance claim for a crash in a car he got for free and wasn't his only vehicle. But whatever. Three days later he bought a brand new $30,000 car. I told him that my feelings were hurt that he lied to me about not being able to afford dinner and he went off the rails. He screamed at me and said all these awful things. Then deleted me from Facebook.

    Life got SO MUCH easier after he removed himself from my life! So happy to see him gone. And I know you will be happy that she's gone too!
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    Good riddance to her and her drama!

    SO has a friend sort of like that - always over dramatic and really immature. Once group of us were hanging out and decided to rent a movie. Three of us went to pick one out while the others went to get food. This girl threw an absolute fit about the movie we picked. She seriously cried and her FI had to take her into another room to calm her down. Then she ended up loving the movie. I still can't believe how ridiculous she acted and wonder if she is embarrassed by her own behavior. We aren't really friends with them anymore and I really don't miss them. 



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    pinkcow13pinkcow13 member
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    The immaturity of people somehow still continues to amaze me. Good riddance to her.
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    I'm gonna echo the chorus and say good riddance! Honestly, that was probably the least dramatic way that friendship could end, and with a personality like hers it was inevitable that it would end.

    I had a really close friend whom I witnessed overreact, blow up at others, and end friendships over stupid things. In the back of my mind I knew that she might turn on me one day, and then she did. Sent me a dramatic message on Facebook, blocked me, and told my ex things from our private conversations and shared some of my Facebook posts with him that pissed him off enough for him to lash out during our divorce proceedings and during the sale of our house that followed. I got a text from her about eight months later telling me she's not mad (SHE's not mad?! I don't recall screwing up her bitter divorce so I'm not sure what she'd have to be mad about.) and wanting to get together. Stupidly, I was briefly tempted because I missed having that fun friend and it hurts to lose a friend, no matter how loony, but then reason kicked in and I made the decision to cut her out of my life forever and move on. I'm confident that it was the right decision.
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    So this is kind of funny/creepy. 

    There was a girl I was friends with in high school who was a total Mean Girl drama monger. There was a constant vortex of drama around her that sucked in anyone who associated with her, no matter how hard people tried to stay out of it. She didn't get any better after high school. 

    I tired really hard to distance myself from her, and then found out she was always facebook stalking me to try to find things to gossip about or insult me for ("Omg can you believe that photo Novella posted? She looks like such an anorexic whore in it! Haha!") and I kept hearing about it from other people. It was just annoying and petty and stupid. So I finally deleted and blocked her. 

    Well, she apparently had MULTIPLE facebook profiles. So she just used a different profile to continue to stalk me. I kept deleting her, and she kept showing back up. 

    I haven't seen or heard from her in years so I was under the assumption that she had finally forgotten about me and I had successfully deleted all of her many profiles. The other day I posted a status and got a "like" from MeanGirl'sFirstNameMiddleName. I clicked on the person and sure enough, it was her, AGAIN. I never even friended her in recent years (I'm really careful and selective about who I friend) and I have tons of security settings, so this had to have been a very old profile that she dug back up or something. Just weird. 
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    I'm gonna echo the chorus and say good riddance! Honestly, that was probably the least dramatic way that friendship could end, and with a personality like hers it was inevitable that it would end.

    I had a really close friend whom I witnessed overreact, blow up at others, and end friendships over stupid things. In the back of my mind I knew that she might turn on me one day, and then she did. Sent me a dramatic message on Facebook, blocked me, and told my ex things from our private conversations and shared some of my Facebook posts with him that pissed him off enough for him to lash out during our divorce proceedings and during the sale of our house that followed. I got a text from her about eight months later telling me she's not mad (SHE's not mad?! I don't recall screwing up her bitter divorce so I'm not sure what she'd have to be mad about.) and wanting to get together. Stupidly, I was briefly tempted because I missed having that fun friend and it hurts to lose a friend, no matter how loony, but then reason kicked in and I made the decision to cut her out of my life forever and move on. I'm confident that it was the right decision.
    Oh my god. That is some evil shit right there. As if divorce isn't hard enough. What an asshole. I'm glad she's not in your life anymore.
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    I'm gonna echo the chorus and say good riddance! Honestly, that was probably the least dramatic way that friendship could end, and with a personality like hers it was inevitable that it would end.

    I had a really close friend whom I witnessed overreact, blow up at others, and end friendships over stupid things. In the back of my mind I knew that she might turn on me one day, and then she did. Sent me a dramatic message on Facebook, blocked me, and told my ex things from our private conversations and shared some of my Facebook posts with him that pissed him off enough for him to lash out during our divorce proceedings and during the sale of our house that followed. I got a text from her about eight months later telling me she's not mad (SHE's not mad?! I don't recall screwing up her bitter divorce so I'm not sure what she'd have to be mad about.) and wanting to get together. Stupidly, I was briefly tempted because I missed having that fun friend and it hurts to lose a friend, no matter how loony, but then reason kicked in and I made the decision to cut her out of my life forever and move on. I'm confident that it was the right decision.
    Oh my god. That is some evil shit right there. As if divorce isn't hard enough. What an asshole. I'm glad she's not in your life anymore.
    Yeah, that is fucking crazy. Holy shit. 
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    She sounds absolutely crazy. I've never heard of anyone crying over a sofa bed. Glad she is out of your life! 
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    Couggal12 said:
    She sounds absolutely crazy. I've never heard of anyone crying over a sofa bed. Glad she is out of your life! 
    It's the very definition of a First World Problems.






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    lyndausvi said:
    Couggal12 said:
    She sounds absolutely crazy. I've never heard of anyone crying over a sofa bed. Glad she is out of your life! 
    It's the very definition of a First World Problems.
    And it's not even like they dumped her out in a common area like a living room. She had a private bedroom with a door. I could see MAYBE being a little upset if I had to sleep on a sofa in a living room. But girl, you didn't want in on the house and changed your mind. Be grateful they let you in on the house! The rest of the woman shared beds so that she could stay there! 
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    lyndausvi said:
    It amazes me at what people consider cry worthy.

    Sleeping on a sofa bed for a night is not one of those things.  She is just being a manipulative bitch.  She is all "if I cry I get what I want".      Which the others tried to do when the offered to give up their room for her just to shut her up.

    Fuck no.   You don't need friends like that.



    @SBmini - I think you have the right to be disappointed, but you have NO right to call him out on buying a car instead of going to dinner.  That's BS. 

    Right now we are aggressively saving for the higher DP we need due to moving to a high cost of living area.   Not spending on certain items is what is helping us reach that goal.   So sure technically we can afford to spend on 'x' ting, we just prefer not to so we can reach our financial goals sooner.  I would be pissed if someone called me out on what I can afford or not.  

     Just because I have funds in the account doesn't mean they are earmarked for you and your dinner.
    I wasn't trying to hijack this thread. I posted to offer sympathy and support from someone who has been there done that. You don't have any place to berate me for what happened. I told him I was hurt that he lied to me, which he did. He blew up and opted to end the friendship instead of apologize. I later learned about a long list of other really crummy things he did to other people and things he said about me behind my back which just strengthened my resolve to never open that door to the friendship again.
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    lyndausvi said:
    Couggal12 said:
    She sounds absolutely crazy. I've never heard of anyone crying over a sofa bed. Glad she is out of your life! 
    It's the very definition of a First World Problems.
    And it's not even like they dumped her out in a common area like a living room. She had a private bedroom with a door. I could see MAYBE being a little upset if I had to sleep on a sofa in a living room. But girl, you didn't want in on the house and changed your mind. Be grateful they let you in on the house! The rest of the woman shared beds so that she could stay there! 
    That's what I was thinking. Your other friends went above and beyond to make it work so she could stay with them and this is how is she acts? Some people never grow up. 
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    So this is kind of funny/creepy. 

    There was a girl I was friends with in high school who was a total Mean Girl drama monger. There was a constant vortex of drama around her that sucked in anyone who associated with her, no matter how hard people tried to stay out of it. She didn't get any better after high school. 

    I tired really hard to distance myself from her, and then found out she was always facebook stalking me to try to find things to gossip about or insult me for ("Omg can you believe that photo Novella posted? She looks like such an anorexic whore in it! Haha!") and I kept hearing about it from other people. It was just annoying and petty and stupid. So I finally deleted and blocked her. 

    Well, she apparently had MULTIPLE facebook profiles. So she just used a different profile to continue to stalk me. I kept deleting her, and she kept showing back up. 

    I haven't seen or heard from her in years so I was under the assumption that she had finally forgotten about me and I had successfully deleted all of her many profiles. The other day I posted a status and got a "like" from MeanGirl'sFirstNameMiddleName. I clicked on the person and sure enough, it was her, AGAIN. I never even friended her in recent years (I'm really careful and selective about who I friend) and I have tons of security settings, so this had to have been a very old profile that she dug back up or something. Just weird. 
    Holy fuck. That is crazy. 
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    lyndausvi said:
    Couggal12 said:
    She sounds absolutely crazy. I've never heard of anyone crying over a sofa bed. Glad she is out of your life! 
    It's the very definition of a First World Problems.
    And it's not even like they dumped her out in a common area like a living room. She had a private bedroom with a door. I could see MAYBE being a little upset if I had to sleep on a sofa in a living room. But girl, you didn't want in on the house and changed your mind. Be grateful they let you in on the house! The rest of the woman shared beds so that she could stay there! 
    Sleeping on sofa beds, air mattress and stuff like that are not ideal.  However, 2 weeks out and you need a place to stay, then beg your friends to let you in on a house.   You have NO RIGHT to bitch about what accommodations you end up with.

    Early bird gets the worm.  Snooze you lose.   Grow the fuck up.


    My parents have a beach house.  Now granted we do not pay to stay there, but sometimes we end up in the upstairs living room on the sofa.   Which that room is just simply on the landing at the top of the stairs.  Sometimes I've ended up on the air-mattress in the study. Other times it's the room with twin beds.  If' I'm lucky we get the room with the en-suite.      Regardless where we end up we are grateful.








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    SBmini said:
    lyndausvi said:
    It amazes me at what people consider cry worthy.

    Sleeping on a sofa bed for a night is not one of those things.  She is just being a manipulative bitch.  She is all "if I cry I get what I want".      Which the others tried to do when the offered to give up their room for her just to shut her up.

    Fuck no.   You don't need friends like that.



    @SBmini - I think you have the right to be disappointed, but you have NO right to call him out on buying a car instead of going to dinner.  That's BS. 

    Right now we are aggressively saving for the higher DP we need due to moving to a high cost of living area.   Not spending on certain items is what is helping us reach that goal.   So sure technically we can afford to spend on 'x' ting, we just prefer not to so we can reach our financial goals sooner.  I would be pissed if someone called me out on what I can afford or not.  

     Just because I have funds in the account doesn't mean they are earmarked for you and your dinner.
    I wasn't trying to hijack this thread. I posted to offer sympathy and support from someone who has been there done that. You don't have any place to berate me for what happened. I told him I was hurt that he lied to me, which he did. He blew up and opted to end the friendship instead of apologize. I later learned about a long list of other really crummy things he did to other people and things he said about me behind my back which just strengthened my resolve to never open that door to the friendship again.

    Okay, it's fine if the friendship really ended over other things. But he did not have to apologize or give a good excuse for spending his own money, and I think Lynda's right that he could have been legitimately offended. He wasn't lying if he said didn't have money to go to dinner. There might have been another lie in there somewhere.

    Climbing, it's kind of crazy to see even now, at 25, how different people are maturing (or not) since college. Glad she ended this one for you finally.

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    For real, Laney sounds like she might be 6 years old.



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