I know the fathers are not part of the wedding party and I by no means want to dictate what they need to wear. The wedding is still far away and I'm not even thinking about it but a talk with FIs mom brought up this question. We are getting married at a historic ski lodge in the winter at night, the girls will be in floor length dresses and the boys will all be in suits. My family loves getting dressed up for weddings, my mom is really looking forward to shopping for her dress and she has already said she will be putting dad in a suit. FI's family is much more casual with weddings, I don't think I have ever seen his dad dressed up more than his "nice" wranglers and a polo. His mom asked me what my dad was wearing and I told her a suit just thinking that was normal and I could hear the distress in her voice when she said "it's hard to get my boys to dress up". I'm not sure what to really tell her to make her feel better, it will be a little more formal, at night, in the winter and my family will all be dressed in their best knowing them. I don't want to tell her what to "make" him wear but I'm worried she will feel uncomfortable when the wranglers and polo look so out of place compared to the rest of the people in pictures.. I don't expect a suit and I by no means want to dictate what any of the dad's wear, I could just hear how stressed that made her feel when I said my dad would be in a suit and I'm not sure how to make her feel better.. Should I just have FI broach the topic with the men in his family?
