Hey ladies, once again I am in need of your sage advice... and mostly for the blunt honesty and unbiased opinions that I could really use. Cliff notes: I'm finally ready to quit my job. Given everything that my boss has put me through, including the 51 hours of overtime + several hours of "mandatory meetings" that I haven't been paid for, how generous should I be with giving my notice?
As most of you know, I really dislike my job, particularly because my bosses make it a living hell. For purposes of this E board, y'all know my boss as the one who refused to invite any SOs that weren't already married, and even then you weren't invited with your spouse if she hates your spouse. She's the one who had a dual-plated entree of stuffed lobster tail and filet mignon at a yacht club and only had a cash bar but cited budget issues as one of the reasons why not to invite SOs. She's the one who made nasty remarks about me drinking at her shower, claiming I "only drank because it was free." Basically, she's horrible.
I'm finally getting the balls up to finally leave this place. It's time for me to transition to the legal field anyway, being in law school, and I can make better money as a paralegal than I can where I'm at right now. I told her and her mom (the owner) this, and they said to me: "we support you in your career endeavors, so please support us while we try to find someone to replace you."
At first, I thought this was the right thing to do. I hated to be the type of person to up and leave them deserted with no coverage, so I agreed. The problem is, they haven't found anybody. In fact, they've hired and lost SIX people! None of them stayed longer than 3 weeks, and it's mostly because my boss scares them all away! They tell me while we're training that they think she hates them, they feel like they aren't doing anything right, and of course I can't throw her under the buss and say "That's just how she is, don't take it personal," but that's the reason! I even had a client tell me that the reason she'll never come back to our business is because of how rude and nasty my boss is. In fact, clients and other employees tell me all the time that they're surprised "they've kept me around for this long" and that every other person in my position ends of quitting because of how my boss is. Shit, I'm ready to do it right now myself!
We just hired two new candidates for this position, and at first I thought that I should stay long enough to train them (1.5-2months) because it would be the right thing to do. Now I'm wondering, when does "doing the right thing" stop and being a doormat begin? Why do I feel like I owe them my continued time and effort to train their new employees when they've treated me like shit, denied me 51 hours of overtime pay, insulted me, and completely taken advantage of me by having me work 9-5 on my day off and not paying me for it (which I didn't realize until I got my paycheck, 2 weeks after the fact)? I plan to file a complaint with the Atty General's office over my overtime pay, but I know once I pursue this issue it will DEFINITELY mark the end of my time there. I keep feeling guilty at the thought of just finding a new job and giving them 2 weeks' notice, but I don't want to feel guilty towards people who have done me so wrong when I've done nothing but help their business. If you took the time to read all of this, thank you. WWYD?