"View Our Wedding Online" Invitation

madisonbh

I am trying to make wedding invitations (if that's what you would even call them) and I would really appreciate anyone's help on how to word them. We will be getting married in Vegas and I'm not really planning on a ton of people attending since we have family/friends on both sides of the country. I want to send out an announcement letting everyone know that I would like them to be part of our day by watching the live stream broadcast of the wedding online. How can I word this so that it sounds nice and not tacky? Any thoughts? 

LondonLisa

madisonbh said:

I am trying to make wedding invitations (if that's what you would even call them) and I would really appreciate anyone's help on how to word them. We will be getting married in Vegas and I'm not really planning on a ton of people attending since we have family/friends on both sides of the country. I want to send out an announcement letting everyone know that I would like them to be part of our day by watching the live stream broadcast of the wedding online. How can I word this so that it sounds nice and not tacky? Any thoughts? 

Oh dear! 

That is very insulting, please don't send them out! Either invite people to actually attend your wedding or don't. We aren't in year 2, and people understand that they are not invited to everything.  Do not invite them to view it online. Would you invite people to to watch a live stream video of your birthday party without actually inviting them???

A good rule of thumb is, if you can't figure out how to word something so it isn't tacky, it fundamentally is. You can't put lipstick on a pig. 

mlg78

Are you truly inviting them or are you just saying "hey, join us to watch the wedding!"  Does everyone have the option of actually attending if they want?  Personally, I see nothing wrong with adding something (maybe to the RSVP card) in regards to if you're unable to attend you're welcome to join us via the website.  I don't think that you should just sent announcements about viewing it online without actually inviting everyone.

mikenberger

No. If you want them to view your wedding, invite them and host them properly. It's going to be tacky however you put it because that's exactly what it is.

LondonLisa

If she wants to stream it for Granny who cannot make it, that is one thing. But it is rude to send out announcements to people who aren't invited to view it online. However, it is fairly AW-ish (but not against etiquette per se) to send it out to everyone who is invited but cannot make it. 

AddieCake

I agree with PPs. If you're doing it for people you invited who can't make it, ok. But don't send me a consolation prize. 

MyNameIsNot

You don't send an invitation to people to watch a party that they aren't invited to. That's pretty basic common sense manners. 

It's fine to offer the link to invited (but declining) guests who express their disappointment at missing the event. It's also ok to share a link to someone who isn't invited but directly expresses an interest in watching the ceremony. It is never ok to send out a blanket invitation like this.

If people who aren't even invited to your wedding cared about watching the ceremony, you'd have paparazzi beating down the door and these people would be watching on TMZ.

redoryx

Note to lurkers:

If you ever find yourself in a position where you are wanting to do something for your wedding and are struggling to find a way to make it "sound nice" or "polite" or "not tacky" .... immediately cease all planning with regards to whatever it is you're wanting to do. Period. Full Stop. If you have to work to make something worded in such a way so as to not offend your guests, it's going to offend your guests and therefore should be avoided at all costs.

msuprincess04

I agree with PP. If you are sending out an invitation, make it an actual invitation to join you at the wedding as a guest. However, adding an insert that it is available to be watched online if they can't make it would be appropriate. 

I received a Facebook invitation to a wedding last year. It was a Wednesday and they were going to get married that Saturday. We looked into flights and hotels, and almost booked before getting a follow-up email saying we weren't invited to the wedding, they were eloping, but we could watch it live over the computer if we wanted. It was tacky and hurtful. We were happy we hadn't booked travel, but there were others who weren't so lucky. 

southernbelle0915

The reason you're having trouble wording this without sounding tacky is because there's no way to word this without sounding tacky. It's tacky and rude.

Just invite the people to Vegas that you want to witness your ceremony. Inviting people to watch a streaming of it is basically saying "You weren't important enough for us to invite you to Vegas, so we set up streaming for all of our second-rate friends/family. Cheers!" There's no un-tacky way to say that. Period.

madisonbh

Oh wow! That post didn't go as planned. I of course do not have a problem with anyone that I invite attending but I am already aware that 95% of the people that these invitations would be going to not being able to attend because it is across the country. I would never even want someone to watch my wedding that I didn't want to be there in person. Unfortunately, none of those people will actually be able to be there. I just wanted a way to let them know that the wedding could also be viewed online so that they didn't feel totally left out by the fact that I am having a destination wedding. The insert idea seems like my best option. Thanks. 

madisonbh

Also, why the rudeness with the responses? Aren't we all supposed to be supporting each other here? Weddings are stressful stuff. A simple, "may this option would be better" would have sufficed. Please people be mindful of others feelings. 

southernbelle0915

madisonbh said:

Also, why the rudeness with the responses? Aren't we all supposed to be supporting each other here? Weddings are stressful stuff. A simple, "may this option would be better" would have sufficed. Please people be mindful of others feelings. 

This isn't a support group. It's a forum where people swap ideas and advice about various aspects of weddings. If an idea is tacky or bad, it will get called out. Support doesn't always mean agreement.

But I better understand what you're trying to do now that you clarified. It sounds like there people ARE invited. If that's the case, I would just tell them via insert or link to it on your wedding website, or tell them via word of mouth.

AddieCake

Nobody was rude in their responses.

mikenberger

madisonbh said:

Also, why the rudeness with the responses? Aren't we all supposed to be supporting each other here? Weddings are stressful stuff. A simple, "may this option would be better" would have sufficed. Please people be mindful of others feelings. 

Well I mean since you said please...

We weren't rude. We were matter of fact and straight forward. Sorry there weren't enough faces included.

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MairePoppy

If you think weddings are stressful, just wait until you and your spouse have a real crisis to deal with - Buying a house is stressful, losing a job, ILs have bought plane tickets to stay with you the week your first baby is born. Yikes!

If planning your wedding is stressful, you're doing it wrong.

LtPowers

MairePoppy said:

If you think weddings are stressful, just wait until you and your spouse have a real crisis to deal with - Buying a house is stressful, losing a job, ILs have bought plane tickets to stay with you the week your first baby is born. Yikes!

If planning your wedding is stressful, you're doing it wrong.

That's kind of unfair. Family events can often be fraught, with a lot of emotion packed into every perceived or actual gesture.

And I found the process of buying a house not at all stressful. So it really varies from person to person.

theartistformerlyknownas

madisonbh said:

Also, why the rudeness with the responses? Aren't we all supposed to be supporting each other here? Weddings are stressful stuff. A simple, "may this option would be better" would have sufficed. Please people be mindful of others feelings. 

If you need support, I suggest a well fitting bra.

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lolo883 I like the juxtaposition of your siggy with your comment

madisonbh

Wow!