Between the snowflake thread, being new-ish on here, and some things happening over in Etiquette, I've been feeling the need to confess.
I don't want to be a bridezilla. I never wanted to be a bridezilla. I love my family and friends and I want to host them nicely and politely.
TL;DR: But apparently I've made a TON of mistakes, and may have been a MaidZilla (is that a thing? Can I trademark that?)
So it's time to come clean, ladies, air out my dirty laundry, and beg forgiveness:
- I convinced my sister to do a Honeyfund, I thought it was cute and they were planning this huge Europe trip, and they love to travel, and it was the New Thing
- I (co-) billed an OOT BM for a shower she couldn't attend (as she was a 3-hour flight away and had already come up for a dress appt)
- I was overbilled for that same shower, which I didn't enjoy because I hate parties, because of an out of control co-MOH who just went totally overboard and sprung it on me at the party.
- I then acquiesced to a bach party I was also not super-comfortable with (I just don't like parties! Especially with people I don't know!) and was rewarded by being demanded more money of, and in turn, demanding more money out of others when the bill came back higher than expected (what was supposed to be a $15/head cost turned into more like $50 when everyone over-ordered on drinks and food)
- I rarely communicated with other BMs in either wedding I've been in, certainly not on what their budget might be for things (nor was I ever consulted on such things - who knew you were supposed to take people's finances into consideration?!)
- On my sister's wedding day, the photog asked me to make her laugh. I then told her a story (that in my defense, I thought was hilarious) about one of the kids in my after-school program who'd been caught plagarizing. She was not amused.
I feel like a terrible friend!!!!! And I just needed to confess. Any shares on your own experiences with etiquette blunders you didn't know you were making would be appreciated!