FI's parents will be paying for our RD, but they are being very hands off w all of the planning. His brother was married last yr and his Mom complained that she was not included in any decisions (to my knowledge, they did not contribute financially, except for the RD). Because of this, I'm conscious to include FMIL in our plans (even though my parents are paying for the entire thing). I face timed w her when I went dress shopping and invited them to be a part of our food tasting in April. She lives 4 hours away, so FI and I put a list of restaurants together for her to choose one and strongly recommended one to her. I'm a little annoyed that she has taken no initiative to book the RD and almost want to book and pay for it myself (this would prob be a bad move, though?)
I don't want us to be pushy and bug them about booking, but how long should I wait? I don't want to be stuck a month before the wedding w/o a place booked. Am I being ridiculous? Overly anxious? Thoughts/suggestions are welcome. Thank you!