I asked my FMIL to assist me with booking room blocks since it will be most of her family coming in from out of town. Okay, truth be told - she took it upon herself to start looking into room blocks, and so I wound up just saying, "So do you want to take care of this for me?" I could tell she wanted a job to do since I wasn't asking for her help much on the actual wedding planning (she lives six hours away and I have close friends and family in town who help me).
She emailed me tonight saying that she wants to make welcome baskets for the guests coming in from out of town. She said that normally the bride and groom take care of this, but she wanted to know that if we weren't going to do this, would I mind if she went ahead with it.
My initial thought was... why not? But the more I thought about it, the more I feel like she is taking the inch that I gave her and turning it into a mile. Her modus operandi from the beginning has been to turn this event into something bigger and more extravagant than my fiancé and I had ever intended.
She keeps on making suggestions like this, and if I say "no" to any of them, her feelings get hurt and I feel like I'm being viewed as a "bridezilla" for simply having boundaries.
Any suggestions on a diplomatic way to tell her to stop giving suggestions? Or at least to say "no" to this most recent one? I feel like I need to say no on principle because she continues to overstep bounds.