Happy Monday All,
This is going to be a two part post...
Did you live with your SO before Marriage? and Why?
If Yes: Was it a requirement to live together before marriage or even becoming engaged? Did your families approve/disapprove?
If No: What was your reasoning (religious, just didn't want to, etc.)
So some background story...My BF and I have been together for almost 2 years in March (YAY!), and plan to get an apartment later on this year. We both currently live at home w/ our parents by choice to save money. My family believes that a couple should not live together before they are married, POINT BLANK PERIOD. His family is a lot more relaxed and doesn't really care what we do as long as we're happy. So as of right now, his family is aware of my plans but mine aren't. My family knows I plan to move out this year, they just don't know its with him. I'm one who doesn't necessarily play by the rules and I'm going to do what I want to do regardless of what others think. I however did tell my BF that I want to be engaged before moving in together just because I have sooo many friends that have expected a proposal after living with their BFs and are still waiting years later.
The other day, we were discussing our finances and where exactly we want to move when he tells me that I need to let my family know of our plans. Now, I dont plan to keep them in the dark about this up until the day we move out, I'm going to tell them, just within a month or two of us ACTUALLY moving out. He however feels that I need to tell them now. I have already made up my mind that this is what i am going to do, so the time of me telling them wont change anything, but I would rather have a few weeks of them criticizing and trying to change my mind than them doing it for half a year. Am I wrong for withholding this from them and should I just take my BFs advice and tell them now?