How did you meet?

[Deleted User]

Fi and I met when I became a resident assistant in the apartment complex where he lived (and he used to work). He decided to play a prank on the new girl (me) one night and we instantly became close friends. 

Our "how we met" story has a funny- albeit super embarrassing- twist though:

After a few months of dating, we were talking about our most shameful drunk moments, and I told him the story of my first time ever being drunk when I was a freshman in college. I had gotten a ride back to my dorm (where he worked at the time) and the entire way home I had to pee really really bad but believed that I could hold it until I got to my room. When I was in the elevator of my dorm, I couldn't handle myself anymore and I peed in the elevator. Because I was in such a bad state, it didn't occur to me to clean it up. I am a terrible, horrible human being...I know. 

Anyways, I told him this story, and he looked at me with his jaw dropped. I thought it was because he was so disgusted. Instead, he goes: "That was YOU?" Apparently, he was the resident assistant on-duty that night and was the one who had to, erm, mop the elevator. 

I know that's super weird and we obviously don't tell that part when people ask about our story, but it's a funny secret  that still cracks us up. 

decembergrl2014

We met on Match.com We were messaging, then moved to talking on the phone and texting. We had our first date on 12/15/12 at The Cheesecake Factory. Fast forward 2 years. We got married on 12/12/14, and thanks to him I'm also stepmom to 2 girls and a boy. I had my dream wedding and in August we will be going on our dream honeymoon...Hawaii. Can't wait!

erinlin25

We met through a mutual friend that neither of us really knew all that well.  I was teaching at a school and had a new co-teacher who started in our room at the beginning of the school year.  We were friendly, but co-workers so not "friends."  Anyway, I got in a huge fight with my mother right before Christmas right before going to a friends wedding (like the 7th wedding of that year).  The fight was about my mom freaking out that all my friends were getting married, and I was nowhere close (thanks mom).  Anyway, co-worker and I were talking at lunch right before the christmas break and had this heart to heart conversation.  She was like "we will show your mom, I am going to find you a boyfriend!"  lol... so we leave for christmas break, and this co- worker went to a friends christmas party (who we also worked with) where she met my now H.  H was the brother of her friends son-in-law.  Co-worker struck up a conversation with now H and was just like "you have to meet this girl."

So we come back from christmas break and co-worker comes in and just says "I met your new boyfriend, no I met your husband."  It took her two weeks to convince me to go out with him.  I was not interested in a blind date.  We agreed to meet but her and her husband had to go out with us the first time.  Co-workers husband got sick and I was going to cancel if they could  not come, but she was like no I am seeing this through.  So the 3 of us met up at a bar for happy hour.  H and I hit it off, he got my number and rest is history. 

WinstonsGirl

Roller derby.  He was watching the match and checking out my hot pants.  My teammate was married to his co-worker and set us up.  He got the e-mail wrong.  I stood him up on the first date.  He stumbled across me and we decided to go out for drinks anyway after I dropped a lot of F bombs outside of the restaurant.  

We went on a second date a few days later.  I had coffee set up the day after this with a different guy from online.  I went but I didn't even want to go and by the end I just wanted to see DH again.  

sophhabobopha

We met through mutual friends at a party where I drank a whole bottle of shitty wine. We went on a date a week later, got drunk, had sex, and here we are.

AuroraRose41

I have shared it on other boards before, but why not again. FI and I met in college, during a programming class. We were both studying electrical engineering. As a fairly attractive blonde in sorority letters and only 1 of 3 women in the 100+ person program, I stood out a LOT. One day, FI and his friend walked into class, and saw me sitting down already waiting for class to start. FI's friend bet FI a case of beer to "go sit next to the pretty blonde". FI took him up on that bet, sat down right next to me (his friend sat next to him), said something sarcastic but witty and funny to me, and I gave a witty retort right back. There was an instant connection, but neither of us can remember what we said that day! 

We remained friends that year and started casually sleeping together the next year. We were FWB but didn't really see anyone else during that time because we weren't interested in anyone else. He was graduating that year and didn't want a girlfriend before he moved. So he took a job offer near our college in NY while I took a summer internship in San Diego. We started texting a lot that summer, and eventually that turned into skyping. One day while skyping, he tells me that he knew he would miss me as a friend, but didn't realize just how much I meant to him until I wasn't there anymore. I told him I would come visit after I got back to NY, and he asked me out almost as soon as he saw me. 

We had a rough patch when I was graduating and accepted a job offer with the same company in San Diego, and we didn't know how we would make cross country long distance work. In a weird twist of fate, his company went through a massive layoff 3 weeks before my graduation, getting rid of his entire department, and he applied to every job posting at my company and got an offer that was even better than his previous employment in terms of salary, benefits, and work environment. The rest is history. 

themuffinman16

H and I worked together at a Mexican restaurant. He always made me laugh. One day, we had a sour cream war with sour cream guns, and it was the first time I saw him in a differently light.  We were friends. Dairy brought us closer.

  After our war, we started hanging out together and would talk at Denny's until 5 am. He went back to college, and I would visit him on the weekends.  One weekend, I woke up, snuggled in his arms, and I just knew I would spend the rest of my life with him.

levieenrose

themuffinman16 said:

H and I worked together at a Mexican restaurant. He always made me laugh. One day, we had a sour cream war with sour cream guns, and it was the first time I saw him in a differently light.  We were friends. Dairy brought us closer.

  After our war, we started hanging out together and would talk at Denny's until 5 am. He went back to college, and I would visit him on the weekends.  One weekend, I woke up, snuggled in his arms, and I just knew I would spend the rest of my life with him.

If I could go back and change our first meeting, I'd go for this. You pretty much just described DH's perfect fantasy date. Food fight FTW! 

peachy13

We met 20 years ago in 4th grade, sitting next to each other because our last names start with same letter. Through the years he became such a stud while I was wearing braces and reading Harry Potter. He always said hi to me in the hallways with a smile. Always.

Starting hanging out with some mutual friends 5 years ago and got flirty. Started dating 4 years ago. Moved in with each other 2 years ago and rescued a dog together. Getting married in October to the nicest stud I know.

Inkdancer

My full story is sappy and gross, so I'll just give the summary: poetry class, freshman year of college.

levieenrose

I wonder if I'm going to see some of these stories on the Big Screen someday...

Very romantic!

Kauris

We met through my ex, but my ex and I did not stay friends. In fact when the ex started whining about how I can't date a friend of his, I asked what his (DH) last name was. The ex didn't know it so I told the ex his "rule" didn't apply since they clearly weren't friends. We dated for a year, he broke up with me. Then 2.5 years later he told his mom he made a big mistake with breaking up with me and she told him to make it right. He did!

buttercup1958

I love hearing these kind of stories. I think they are awesome. V and I met through mineralogy ( a geology class). We kinda talked here and there for about a month into the semester. I thought he was cute, he thought I didn't like him. I told my coworkers, who are also geology majors, that I liked him.

Of course they told him! The next day, we were walking out of class together and he asked me for my number. We went out to a Japanese restaurant, watched an awful movie, and walked around on a trail. He kissed me by his car and asked me to be his girlfriend a few days later. We have been together ever since!

slothiegal

I LOVE EVERYONE'S STORIES! Why, it's almost as if there is no one, correct, (dare I say "legitimate"?!), way for a relationship to start and develop--crazy!

Unlike proposals, obviously.

ETA fat fingers on mobile are a mess. Also, I'll share my meeting story when I'm back at a computer. It involves me telling a guy he had a small dick. 'cause I'm classy like that.

katiekessler123

This is a fun topic!  We met at a women's self defense course.  My husband was one of the instructors!

mlg78

Match.com! He bought the ring two months after meeting and we were engaged in less than four months!

levieenrose

slothiegal said:

I LOVE EVERYONE'S STORIES! Why, it's almost as if there is no one, right (dare I say "legitimate"), way for a relationship to start and develop--crazy!

Unlike proposals, obviously.

ETA fat fingers on mobile are a mess. Also, I'll share my meeting story when I'm back at a computer. It involves me telling a guy he had a small dick. 'cause I'm classy like that.

Ooo, I can't wait!  

madamerwin

slothiegal said:

I LOVE EVERYONE'S STORIES! Why, it's almost as if there is no one, correct, (dare I say "legitimate"?!), way for a relationship to start and develop--crazy!

Unlike proposals, obviously.

ETA fat fingers on mobile are a mess. Also, I'll share my meeting story when I'm back at a computer. It involves me telling a guy he had a small dick. 'cause I'm classy like that.

None of these stories is legitimate. Therefore, none of you ever actually met your SOs. EVERYONE MUST START OVER!

(Sorry, couldn't resist.)

MadHops21

I was dating his friend, then I was disinterested and we broke up.

Next day, me and FI spent a week banging at his grandma's abandoned house.

After 7 days of straight banging, we decided to go out.

I don't like telling people the real story of how we met, so I say through a friend. 

[Deleted User]

Love this post...it's bringing this lurker out of the woodwork.

What I tell people who don't need to know the whole story: "We met at work."

What really happened:  I took his class.  I was a first-year PhD student, he was an assistant prof in my department, and he offered a seminar on a topic that I was really interested in.  My friend told me he was an incredible prof and I would love the class, so I signed up.  A bunch of us started going for drinks after class at a local pub, so we got to know each other outside of the classroom.  One night after a departmental function, my friend and her BF invited me to their house to hang out with them and one of their friends...who turned out to be Mr. Historian.  We drank/laughed/had Nerf gun fights all night.  The next week he asked me to go on a travel course he was teaching...it was to a place I'd always wanted to go, and I had the money, so I agreed.  We got to know each other really well over that trip, so our friendship was pretty well solidified when we got back.

Then, about a month after we got back and the class was over, a bunch of people from the course met up for a reunion at our favorite pub.  We closed down the bar, and were standing outside talking when I went for my car.  He asked me if I could drive...I could, but I said "No," and he gave me a ride back to my apt.  He walked me to the door, where we stood awkwardly talking for about 10 minutes before I just invited him in.  We had a couple more drinks, and at some point we found ourselves sitting on the floor watching Muppet Treasure Island.  Then he stuck his hand up my shirt and the rest is history.

kmbay84

We also met online.  I noticed his profile and clicked on out of curiosity.  He seemed like a nice, genuine, down to earth guy and different than all the rest.  I thought what the heck and messaged him  He messaged me back and we chatted for awhile and finally met up after awhile.  He was so chivalrous, patient, kind, and just seemed like a good guy.  We continued dating and I have never been treated so well or made to feel so special.  He just has a genuine personality and has a knack for making everyone feel welcome. 

He always puts others first, which is something I noticed right away.  He was just the real deal and I am glad that I took that chance to message him.  I am a snail in relationships and he never pressured me into anything, always seeming to go by my personal schedule.  I know he loves me to pieces as I do him and I feel as though I met my soul mate, as corny as that sounds.

fwtx5815

He was actually my boss for about a year before we started dating. I can remember exactly what he was wearing the first time I ever saw him. I still to this day will not let him get rid of the shirt he was wearing when I first laid eyes on him. I don't care how ratty it gets, I want to be buried in it.

We didn't date until I left the company, but even when we were not together, I would hear a song and think of him. The fact that I can remember EXACTLY what I was doing when I looked up and saw him, what he was wearing, and all the events of that morning before we met have always stood out to me. I 100% believe that we were meant to meet and be together. He isn't even from this state and moved all over the country for work before getting to Texas where we met. Lately I've seriously questioned my belief in a higher power but the circumstances of us meeting have kept me believing that there is a God. It's beyond weird. When we get married in May, we'll have been together for over 6 years.

melbenso

We met through a mutual friend (who sadly has dropped out of our lives and didn't even end up getting invited to our wedding).

I lived about 25 miles from the city H and I live in now.  I came into the city to visit a good friend of mine, who I've been close with since high school and go to a local art festival.  As we were leaving the arts festival, H called my friend to see if he wanted to hang out with a group of people and go to a movie later that afternoon.  My friend said he'd love to, but he had plans with me.  Turns out, it was a movie that I wanted to see, so we decided to join the group.  I thought H was attractive, but also thought he was dating another one of the people who joined us for the movie.  (He wasn't.  They are just friends.  She did come to the wedding.) 

The group ended up grabbing dinner and drinks after the movie and H and I really got along.  At one point we even "grade school slow danced" to some 80s power ballad that came on the juke box at the bar we were at.  We started talking on Myspace (ah, Myspace) and met up for what ended up being our first date at a local music festival a few weeks later.  It wasn't planned as a date. We each had other friends with us, but spent all of our time together that day.  (Among other things, I learned that a friend of mine who I worked with in high school was H's friend in college.  He was also invited to the wedding, but unable to come.)  At one point we were walking around, holding hands and I just turned to him, pulled him towards me, and kissed him. 

Six years later on that same date, we got married.

alpacalunch

We met at a mutual friend's son's 4th birthday party. I thought he was smokin hot, but was convinced he was interested in a friend of mine, with whom he kept chatting. Turns out, he was asking her questions about me, was I single etc. During the after-party (same games, same people, no kids, now with wine!) we really hit it off. 

Since we're both incredibly shy and oblivious to being hit on, it took about three months before any move was made. 

Our paths had actually crossed a few times, he's the brother of a friend of mine. But things never clicked.

Glad they did that time.

bizzy592

Short story, we met on match. Short story for people who don't need to know that, we met at a bar, watching a game.

Longer story.. I had been dating another guy from match for maybe a month or two. Gorgeous, sweet, but boring and not the brightest. It had gone on just long enough for me to remember that looks aren't everything, and that I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with someone who doesn't laugh at my bad jokes.

So when I got a message from FI, despite my initial (stupid) reaction that he wasn't my type, I was in a mindset to remind myself not to be a superficial bitch. It actually seemed like we had a lot in common, and his message was sweet, so I replied. He told me later that it was a complete copy-and-paste form letter haha...

Anyway, we met at a bar downtown, for drinks, and to watch a game. It was crazy how much we had in common, from big picture down to random quirks. But, I was openly flirting with him, and not getting any sort of vibe back, so I assumed he wasn't feeling chemistry. Just to make sure, I kissed him goodnight (completely caught him off-guard). About 5 minutes later he started texting, just the sweetest things, emotionally a 180 from most of the date. Gave me all the feels.

From that point, we met up nearly every day - for drinks, dinner, random adventures. For a little while, his behavior continued in that pattern, of being far more emotionally open via text/email than in person. When people meet me, they often think that I'm very proper, uptight, and nice (read boring). Which I can be, until I feel comfortable around them, and relax. He later told me that before he realized how goofy/sarcastic/open I am, he was worried about scaring me off with his similar traits. So he was acting more formally, which kept my level of formality up as well haha. That ended quickly

Anyway, it was amazing to realize that not only did we have so many interests in common, but that our personalities were so perfectly suited. We laugh constantly, make each other think, and challenge each other to be better. He's amazing, and I am so grateful that I stopped being an idiot long enough to give him a chance.

huskypuppy14

I met my husband on match. I messaged him, but not before I had filtered him out for many months. It was my last month of a 6 month period that I paid for, and I wasn't going to renew. I wasn't utilizing it well, so I said one more month then I'm done. I changed my filters to just age and location, found my husband and I messaged him. It was the day before his account was going to expire.

We emailed for a couple weeks, and then went on a date to meet in person. After our date, I went home and thought "that's the man I'm going to marry".

LabLove86

OKCupid.

I had messaged him a few days before hand, and in the meantime went on one more date with one more weird-ass that I met. It was enough. I was done with online dating. So I was actually going on to cancel my account but Fi had messaged me back.

So I decided he was cute and seemed normal and like he had his shit together. So - considering OKC was free- why not just wait and see what happens with this one?? 

So we met. Moved in together after dating for 8 months. Got engaged 8 months after that. And are getting married next fall. 

Funny little tidbit - I had been online dating for almost 2 years. Met all sorts of weirdos/creeps/jackasses/whatevers. 

Fi had a week off from work and signed up because he was bored, he had been on the site for less than 2 weeks and I was one of 2 people he replied to. I was the only one he met. I tell him he had a horseshoe up his ass. 

sunshineontherun

Well since he'll be FI in the next 48 hours...I guess I'll stop lurking and post.

I was his boss at our college tv station and we had been friends. I liked him because he took professional critiques really well. And he was funny.  During auditions he was holding up the timing with his socializing so I yelled "Asshole in the pink, get on set or don't do my show this semester!" He claims that's the moment he knew he would marry me. 

We were in the same friend group so we kind of took it slow. Until his roommate and I got insanely drunk together and I invited him (Jewish) to Easter brunch with my parents. He wanted to go on a date before meeting my parents. Since neither of us had cars, we had to borrow one, so other people invited themselves on the date. We ended up sitting next to each other holding hands under the table so nobody would notice. We went "official couple" with in the next week.

It seems like fate because every internship and once we graduated we ended up getting our jobs doing the same thing together at our dream company.

I love him, but he is hands down the worst secret keeper of all time. I get gifts when they arrive, he can't hold on to them. So for our 4 year anniversary (today!) we went back for a weekend to our old college town and held hands at the same place we had our first date. Above the table AND nobody crashed! But that's when he said "You're going to die when you see your engagement ring this weekend." I'm sure I'll be just as excited when he actually does it.  

JasperandOpal

I feel like there are a lot of potential ads for match making sites, which is really awesome to me.  I didn't realize how many people met their future partners that way.  

I met my husband during the first month of undergrad.  We lived in the same residence hall.  He was broody looking, with dark hair, lots of piercings and always wearing dark clothes.  I wore everything bright and had bright blue hair.  He threw a note at me while I was sitting in the common area, inviting me over to his room for drinks.  I didn't drink so I ignored it but later when I went back to my room he came over and we hung out for a while.  He hated all my favorite music (which was a complete killer to me).  

We saw each other around the halls and on occasionally while he proceeded to make his way through quite a few of the other female residence.  One day he asked if he could borrow my ID to sneak a non-student girl he had met on MySpace into the dorms.  That night, I was in the lounge again and he came in, very drunk, and asked if someone could walk him to get food because he was afraid he would get lost and he didn't want to go back to his room because his "date" was in there and he didn't like her.  We walked to get him sushi, talked for hours and he invited me to go to the city the next day.

The next day we took public transportation to a sort of difficult to get to part of the city.  We walked around all day and I thought it was a date.  He didn't.  He had a date that evening in the city and so he briefly explained to me how to get back to the dorms and we went our separate ways.  I figured that was the end of it and kind of wrote him off (We went to school in a bad area of the city and I was a little upset he expected me to figure out how to get home, at night, by myself when I had been living in the city about a month). 

But then he just kept showing up at my dorm room and hanging out until we were hanging out everyday.  By October we were dating.  We dated for nine years before we got married this past October. 

mrscomposer

Because of my fat cat.  It was yearly checkup day, and the vet and I were chit chatting, and he invited me to the Bible study he attended.  Two months later, there was a guy there who usually attended, but hadn't been since before I started attending.  He was pretty cute, and wearing a tuxedo tee shirt, which was awesome.  I went home to visit my family a couple of weekends later, and had a few dreams about asking him out for coffee, but was too chicken.

Then, a couple months later, my cousin posted something on my FB wall about Impossible Astronaut day, and for some reason it showed up in his feed.  The next Bible study night, he wore a 'Bow Ties are Cool' tee shirt.  Next week I wore a Wolverine tee shirt, and he asked if I wanted to go for coffee.

1st date, coffee, talked for three hours.  2nd date, lunch, talked for three hours.  3rd date, supper at my place, decided to date.  Less than a month later, we were planning our wedding.

I love my mom and dad's story, though...

They started going to school together at the start of grade 10.  Dad was super shy, and Mom had already been in that school for a year, so she and her best friend were giggling back and forth about the new kid.  They were sitting in class, and Mom turns around and goes 'pssst!' really loud at Dad until he looks up - then she winks at him, and he was absolutely mortified.  By the end of high school, though, they were best friends within a group of best friends, and actually ended up walking together during the Grand March of their graduation.

Then, things kinda fell off the rails for Mom for a couple years.  She went to college, almost destroyed her life with partying, was planning on going to Germany to study opera, but was secretly planning to commit suicide over there.  Then, she got pregnant (with me) from a one night stand and decided to at least make sure she had a healthy baby for someone else.  Then she had me and changed her mind about giving me up for adoption.

All through this, her group of high school friends (and Dad) were standing with her and helping her pull her life together.  Dad was actually the first one besides family to come and visit us in the hospital.  A few months later, he sat her down and basically said 'look, we're meant to be together, and you've just been too stubborn to see it.'  He knew they were supposed to be together for years, and just waited for her to figure it out.  They got married three months before I turned two.  It's their thirtieth anniversary this year