I can't with this friend. I love her to death but she is really socially tone-deaf. She's also a BM but that isn't really relevant except to say how close we are.
A while ago she texted me out of the blue, Am I supposed to get you a wedding gift? I said of course not! I just want you there. She tells me she wants to paint me something (she's a very talented artist) and I said great, thanks, wonderful.
She's been telling me for months she cannot attend whatever shower I have because she lives four hours away. No problem.
Today she texted me to ask if she comes to my shower, if she can stay at my house. I told her of course.
Then: "Am I supposed to bring a present?"
GIRL, why do you keep asking me if you're supposed to bring a gift for me? Do you realize how awkward that is? Because obviously you're "supposed" to bring a gift to a shower but I would never ever tell her that. I think she just wants to hear me say no to make her feel better.
She did something similar for Christmas. We visited her in November or something and she texted me, "Just so you know, I will have your Christmas present for you when I see you. Not that you have to bring me anything. But just, you know, so you know. I'll have a present for you."
So anyway... I should just tell her of course she doesn't have to get me a present, right? Obviously she will probably feel awkward when the whole party is opening presents, but I think that's less horrible than telling her she's supposed to get me a gift. Either option is awkward.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."