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Groomswoman Attire
Hi,
My fiance will have a groomswoman on his side and I'm wondering what she should wear. Should she be in the same dress as the bridesmaids or should her dress match the groomsmen? The guys will be wearing navy suit jackets with khakis and the ladies will have on a slighty lighter/brighter shade of navy. Also, should she have a bouquet? Thanks for any and all suggestions!
-Sarah
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Re: Groomswoman Attire
Ditto Addie. Ask for her preference first. She could wear the same dress as BMs, just in the color the GM are wearing. Or just ask her to get a navy dress that will match the rest of the GM.
All the women, myself included, were wearing infinity wrap dresses so they looked largely the same but were all wrapped somewhat differently. I did carry a bouquet and in our case they were jewelry bouquets that we each made, so again, somewhat different.
I think it makes more sense for her to match the groomsmen. So maybe ask her if she would like to wear a blue dress or a blue blazer and khakis (skirt or pants) could be super cute as well. Don't over think it.
As for the flowers, personally I'd give her the same as what the groomsmen are getting.
The way I see it she could wear:
Same dress as bridesmaids
Same dress as bridesmaids but in the darker navy to match groomsmen
Pants if she prefers; khaki pants and a tailored navy jacket like the groomsmen
A navy skirt suit (though def get her budget. These can be pricy and may not be something she'd normally get on her own)
A khaki skirt with a navy blazer
A navy skirt with a khaki jacket
A button down shirt that matches the groomsmen, no jacket, navy skirt
A button down shirt that matches the groomsmen, no jacket, khaki skirt, maybe with a pretty navy scarf?
etc etc
I'd say pick a few ideas you like and ask her what she'd prefer of those
ETA:
The flowers are your call totally.
You could give her a bouquet that looks different than the bridesmaids. Or the same. Or a pin on corsage. Or a bout. Or a wrist corsage.
Will she be processing down the aisle? If so, will she be escorted? If she'll be walking down the aisle, consider giving her something to hold if she won't have her arms linked with someone else.
I suppose they don't need to give her a choice. Assuming it's in budget, OP can say "wear this" (or rather have groom say that), if she wants. I could just see this being an instance where groomswoman could feel weird/uncomfortable depending on the situation.
Groomswoman is obviously close to the groom. Maybe she'd feel weird wearing exactly what the bridesmaids are wearing?
Or maybe if asked to wear pants and a jacket, if she's normally a skirt person, maybe she'd feel like you're trying to make her look like a man and/or she'd feel under-dressed compared to the female members of the bridal party.
Or maybe if she was given a different dress to wear, she'd feel uncomfortable being the ONLY member of the bridal party dressed like that.
I mean... when you accept the position in a bridal party, you accept that you'll wear the attire assuming it is in budget and causes no moral objections... but I just feel like in a case like this, where she is the only woman on the man's side, asking for a preference could alleviate some awkwardness.
Exactly...
I agree. I get that some women prefer pants so all the pants options we gave are an option for those women. But I would be so upset if I was a grooms-women and they tried to make me wear pants! I love dresses and would be very uncomfortable in a wedding party in pants! (I wear pants day to day and will wear a suit for work of course!)