Hi everyone, I'm looking for some input about our current plan to have a dry wedding. From what I've seen, people tend to be generally supportive of dry weddings that are alcohol-free because of religious or recovery reasons. People support the couples' values in those cases... but I haven't seen much about opinions on couples who are doing it because of valuing frugality/moderation in lifestyle (and getting out of student debt) and just generally not being partiers.
My main question is, do you think in this situation that it's unreasonable to plan not to have alcohol for the reception? Would you be offended if you went to a family member's wedding up to 4 hours away, and found that there was no alcohol? Is is better to "warn" people, and if you think so, how would you do it?
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Here are some details if it matters to you:
Many guests (all family) are driving 2-4 hours to the wedding site; my fiance and I will be flying or driving 1000 miles to get there for their convenience, leaving our friends in our home state out of the picture. (That's our choice to avoid asking 70 people to travel as far as we have to; and the 2-4 hour distance from our hometown is because our venue was a great price and we loved it). I shared suggestions for area attractions to frame it as a mini-destination wedding and hope people get into that. We are a relatively young, independent couple with student debt, and are paying for the wedding mainly on our own (shooting for under $5,ooo budget, about 10% of that coming from parents). It's an afternoon wedding with a dinner reception (plated meals). We'll have lawn games and a fire pit instead of a cocktail hour, and puzzles on the tables to entertain people. Our families are not really dancers or big drinkers, but they do have wine with dinner at holiday gatherings. Our venue is a bottle club and the charges add up fast just to pay to have someone open bottles we also pay for, plus tip. We may do a champagne toast, but worry about the costs of anything more in terms of alcohol.