So, my parents are willing to pay for the entire wedding (within their modest budget). They do not *need* monetary help, but it would certainly make the whole process easier.It might also help us get the band that we want.My parents feel that the groom's parents should at least pay for the rehearsal dinner, engagement party, officiant's fee, and tuxes... but they would like some sort of extra contribution for their guests or for the flowers or band or something. So far, they have offered nothing. Not for even the rabbi or the rehearsal dinner. Nothing. Nothing at all. My parents and I are hosting the engagement party.
The grooms parents are not poor. They are just as well of as my parents if not more so. My fiance has already spoken to his parents about their contribution, but they have not given him an answer. They keep saying they need to think about it, that they want to be involved in planning, and that they don't want to talk money with us. BUT, they've spoken to my parents several times, and have not volunteered anything. My fiance says maybe they want my parents to ask them for money... but my parents are embarrassed to ask, as am I. My fiance has asked several times, and still nothing. As of tonight they said "we need more time to discuss this." We are several months into planning, and have appointments with vendors, but can't sign anything because we don't know what we can afford yet. They are putting our planning on hold, and I can't help but take this personally. Like they don't like me or the wedding I am planning with their ONLY child. Should I talk to them? Let it go and assume they're giving nothing? I am so hurt and upset. I always thought that it would be possible that they wouldn't pay for anything beyond the minimum expected of them... but I didn't actually think that they wouldn't offer anything. Help?