Hello ladies! I need a little advice.
So I am hosting a shower for my lovely sister later this month and I am extremely excited for it. She was TTC for many, many years and really struggled so this feels like not only a celebration for her coming baby, but also a triumph of many years of hard work.
Anyways, I am struggling with a few guests. There were a few guests who haven't RSVPed so this past weekend I reached out to those people. For many of them I did not have phone numbers, so I simply sent them a quick message online, something along the lines of "Hope you're doing well and keeping warm, was hoping to see you at the shower blah blah" Most of the people responded with a quick and simple yes or no - very easy. One of my relatives responded with "Thanks for reaching out to me, here's my phone number". Um... seriously? Are you really SUCH a special snowflake that you 1) don't need to RSVP and 2) require that I make SEVERAL extra attempts to confirm your presence. I haven't called her yet and I don't even know if I should at this point. There isn't a lot of good relationship there and I am 99.9% sure she wont come, as she hasn't come to any family functions. I have seen her once in like a decade. what would you do? Should I give her special snowflake treatment and call? or should I just ignore it?
The second fun thing came today. I just got an email from a guest essentially saying "Oopsie, we invited Father's random aunt and we realized that maybe you didn't invite her. Can she come anyways?"
Will this destroy my budget to add one person? No. However, my biggest objection is that my sister specifically did not invite ANY random people to the shower because she wanted it to be personal and intimate, which I very much want to respect. She did not say she wanted this random person invited. So how on Earth should I be responding to this person in a nice way? Or should I ask my sister first?
Thanks in advance for advice! Sorry about the long post