My husband and my wine country vineyard wedding has come and gone and I have a lot of wonderful memories. ALL my vendors were fantastic, I felt so much love from so many local and out of town family and friends, and my husband and I shared many special moments.
There were some kinks (my dress got a rip in it right before the ceremony, there were way too many speeches since we had an open mic, we had mid ninety degree weather, people left earlier then expected, etc), but none of that bothers me since it is so trivial in the grand scheme of things. However, what has stuck with me and continues to bother me when I look back at the wedding is the actions of two out of my six bridesmaids. The other four bridesmaids were so sweet and comforting and I had such an amazing time with them.
Before the day of the wedding, these two girls missed the bridal shower (I didn't mind), the bachelorette party (I was sad but understood due to finances though they really shouldn't have waited until the last second to let my sister know since she ended up losing a deposit when she had to find a smaller place to stay), they missed the rehearsal, and they missed the rehearsal dinner. All of that didn't really phase me very much because everyone has their own lives and schedules and the wedding day was what was important to me because aside from it being a special day for my husband and me, that's also the day I wanted to share with my closest girlfriends before walking down the aisle.
But on the day of the wedding, these two showed up two hours after everyone else which pushed back the hairstylists schedule, they got their hair done as soon as they showed up, but then LEFT again so one of them could quickly check into their hotel (which was only 5 minutes away). They finally came back about 1.5 hours later with only a few minutes before needing to be ready for pictures and they put on their dress and make-up when they got back. This really bummed me out since I brought mimosas, arranged for lunch, and I was paying for their hair to get done (though it was NOT required if they preferred to do their own), and I just thought it would be a morning of girly fun for everyone. I had a blast with the other girls, but I thought these two would join in instead of creating additional stress and wondering if they were going to push back everyone's schedule not once, but TWICE on that day.
Then, I found out at the end of the night when I went back up to get my things from the bridal suite, that these two girls spent a good amount of time in the bridal suite during the wedding and had invited many of our friends (at least ten counted in all the pictures that have been posted on facebook) to come join them to drink hard alcohol that one of the girls snuck in and put in the fridge of the bridal suite (we had an open bar with beer, wine, and champagne all night but we needed an extra license and more money for hard alcohol so we decided against this). The group left the room a mess for me to clean AND left the empty vodka bottles for me to dispose of at the end of the night so I didn't get in trouble for bringing it into a place that didn't allow it. Also, one guy who was taking shots up there ended up puking all over the patio in front of ALL my family which left my caterer (who cleaned it up) and the coordinator who operates the venue very upset and cornered me to make sure he was cut off and sent home. Granted, my bridesmaids can't really control if someone drinks too much and that could certainly be accomplished with what my husband and I provided, but it bothers me that these girls were providing shots for numerous people upstairs in the bridal suite without asking or telling me.
There are a lot of beautiful moments that certainly overtake these other issues, but I just had to vent about the one part that still dissapoints me. Maybe I'm over reacting, but I currently do not feel the same positive emotion for these two girls as I do about the wedding itself.